I want to get real with you in this email. It’s
like I’m going to confession here.
I’ve been the KING of the “Yeah but…” syndrome.
This affliction is what keeps us guys down in the trenches of job hell, relationship hell, and ultimately, personal hell.
My personal symptoms of “Yeah but…” syndrome were anger and indifference.
Do you ever feel these? I want to explain how I got those symptoms to take a hike.
Yeah but… What?
Oh man, there was no end for me.
Yeah…but:
- This job pays so well I don’t dare leave it
- Changing careers is such a big risk?
- I’m afraid of what she will say or
think
- Why should I try harder if SHE isn’t trying harder
- I’m afraid that divorce will ruin me
- What if I fail?
- What if I’m not good enough or smart enough?
- There’s just not enough TIME!
- What if I wind up just like my
dad?
There are plenty more, but it’s starting to hurt my stomach typing them.
You know what doesn’t hurt? Looking back and realizing I was full of crap in each case.
Every single fear I’ve ever had turns out to be some script in my
head I adopted out of insecurity. I created, produced, and directed every scary movie that has ever played in my stupid head.
And it wasn’t until after my 50th birthday (can't believe I just typed five zero) that I found out how easy it is to rewrite, reproduce, redirect the thoughts in my head! You can too. Guys are doing this with me every day.
We turn the “Yeah…but” into a “Hell Yeah”.
- Hell yeah I can get a better job that I actually love
- Hell yeah I can say what I think and ask for what I want without being an ass
- Hell yeah I can be a better man whether or not she “deserves” it
- Hell yeah I might fail and then I get up and try again
- Hell yeah I’m good enough, because I know I can LEARN
- Hell yeah there’s enough time if I just stop doing the crap I’m not interested in anyway
- Hell yeah I’m not my dad. He did the best he could. That doesn’t limit the best I can do!
Phew. I’m done.
Confession is over.
Thanks for listening.
I’m here to tell you that the PROCESS of becoming a “Hell Yeah” man is the best thing you’ll ever do in your
life. Doing this with other men is the only way.
If you want to join me in the “Hell Yeah” band of brothers, send me an email and say “Hell Yeah”. I’m all ears and get what you’re going through – whatever it is.
Better Life - Better Love,
Steve
P.S. Hey, and it’s not too late to join my retreat this Saturday at my place from noon to 5pm. Grilled pizza, incredibly awesome men, and you. $75. Almost Free. Just email me.
P.P.S. Ladies, heads up. I'm days away
from launching a new website just for you. It's about time you and I started having our own conversations. I'll need your help to make it as useful and relevant as possible. More info coming soon.
