I read a lot of articles, books, and blogs.  Maybe too much.

I found myself getting wound up over the silly comments in an article this week.  Actually, it was just ONE comment, but it hit a nerve in me.  It's that nerve that throbs when you see that someone just doesn't get it.  And they're going to get hurt because of it.

Liz Leia, (The Art of Flirting) was explaining how she and many women enjoy the energy of a confident, self-directed man.  I highly recommend that men and women read this article and her  Part 2 follow-up for women.   Liz outlined five important areas where a man can be in control of HIMSELF and why his resulting appeal to women skyrockets.  Those five are:

1.       Integrity

2.       Knowing and Following Your Purpose

3.       Responsibility

4.       Action

5.       Setting Strong Boundaries

One particularly agitated commenter, after lengthy whining and debate, asked an amazingly stupid question.

"This is a really tall order. Being asked to be so in control of yourself so as to assist someone else in their life, is a tall order. What do I get in exchange for this level of control and enlightenment? What's the cost-benefit for me?"

Anyone want to take this one for me?

Nevermind.  I'll go.  But, please!  Send me YOUR thoughts or share them on Facebook.

I didn't post this, but here's my response:

Cost-benefit?  Are you serious?  Are you saying you cannot see the inherent benefit to ANY person adopting these 5 principles as part of who THEY want to be?  Do you need a guaranteed contract of lifetime blowjobs to motivate you to live your life with integrity?  A conscious choice to refuse personal growth because you are uncertain about what you might not GET from others is the most self-defeating and self-destructive mindset you can have.  You can do much better. 

Alright already.  Enough ranting at that dude.

Anyway, this whole topic gets to the very core of why I do what I do.

There is no better feeling in this world than to know you are living according to YOUR self-imposed values.  This is the very source of confidence, courage, and optimism.

You know without a doubt that you can face the world and make decisions in alignment with your convictions and your purpose.  You say what you want to say - what needs to be said. 

And you learn how to do it with love and respect - first for yourself - then for others.

In your relationships, especially those difficult romantic ones, this clarity will set you free.

Are there other fears to face?  Sure there are.

How will they react? 

Will they hate me? 

Will they leave me? 

Will they make my life miserable?

The answers are "Who cares?", "No", "Probably not", and "Only if you let them".

At first this sounds like a real hard-assed outlook, doesn't it?

With a little coaching, you learn how this ends up feeling like the most honest and authentic form of love, respect, and safety.

What's the cost? 

Nearly negligible compared to the other stuff we buy.

What's the benefit?

Priceless clarity and confidence.  No more stomach knots.  And the calm that comes with knowing you're going to be just fine.

Want to have the most powerful conversation you've had all year?

Want to get some honest feedback and advice that will help you immediately?

My schedule is getting full lately, but I'm blocking some time on weekends for serious minded people only.  This is no chit-chat.  Grab a thermos and settle in.  Call or email me to set it up.

To Better Life and Love,

Steve

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