Hey there!  This starts a little heavy, but it gets better.

Gary lived like he was dying.   Then he did.

It was a horrible crash - unexplainable to this day.

He used to brag about how many rollovers he had been in and that his time was coming.

The brand new Dodge 5500 swerved across the lonely country road at 6am, side-swiped two cottonwoods and slammed head on into the largest of them all.

He died instantly.  And two years later I still choke up thinking about how he lived and who he was.

He joked about everything!  He would call me at 6am to tell me the most recent terrible joke he had heard.  Then he would challenge me to have a great day - to do something fun, something worthwhile.

"Drive fast, take chances", he'd say.

I thought I was a special friend.  Then, as people swarmed to his house the day of the crash, I watched people cry and tell their story about how he would call them out of the blue and tell them stories to brighten their day.  And how he would always say, "How come you never call me?!"

Gary chose to make EVERYONE in his life feel special.  Every day.  Every damn day.

I miss him a lot.

He knew something very, very clearly.  And he's still teaching it to me.

 

This Ain't No Dress Rehearsal

My challenge to you as a man or woman is to wake up.  I'll do it with you.

Stop living your life as if "good enough" is good enough.

Stop making excuses for why you are not improving your world one person at a time.

Start the process with the person who shares your bed.

Start with a child.

Start with ANY stranger.

What Gary knew is that by choosing to DO love with every person he cared for he activated his super hero power.

 

That is the power to create GOOD feelings in other people.

You have this power and I have this power.

The fact that you are reading this means you're closer to harnessing it than most.

 

The Lucky Happy People

The most common complaints I get from men and woman include:

• I want to feel more spark

• I want to feel more connection

• I want to feel more understood

• I want to feel more passion

• I want to feel more supported

• I want to feel more trust and safety

Here's the truth.

Relationships with those feelings ONLY happen to people who are willing to BE that person and CREATE those feelings first.

We don't just "have", "attract", or "get" that kind of relationship with anyone.

That kind of relationship is created by you - every damn day.  Or not.

What happens if we choose not to?

We will blame our upbringing.  We resent our partner.  We curse the universe for being unfair.

The lucky, happy people seem to get all the breaks.

What's their secret?

Think, speak, and act like a lucky happy person and magic happens.

 

Okay, so HOW do I do THAT?

For starters, swallow a little pride and have a little faith.

I remember how long I choked hard on just those two things.

I'm a natural born "seein' is believin', show me, I don't think so, my friend, anti-woo woo, skeptic".

The thing is, NONE of what I'm talking about is hard!

It's just a little spooky.

Why?  Because we are all a little insecure.  Afraid to be vulnerable.

We're nervous about what people might think or say about us.

But the man or woman YOU were meant to be doesn't give a crap about that.

The strong, loving, giving friend and lover inside you makes NO APOLOGIES for giving your gifts to others. 

And, very importantly, you have no expectation for outcomes.

 

What's SO Scary?!

Give me ONE GOOD reason a person would choose NOT to do these.



If you're not willing to be your BEST SELF today, exactly who are you waiting to show it to?



• Grab her/him by the pants, go eye to eye and say, "I appreciate the feelings of goodness and happiness you bring to my life.  You are so special to me!"  Then walk away.
  

• Go to the manager of any store in which you were given good service and tell them the story of how impressed you were by their employee.  Let the employee hear you.

• Tell your partner how much you desire them.  Tell them about how you crave their mind and their body.  Tell them how often you think about them.  Do this without any agenda.

• Kiss your partner for at least 10 seconds for no reason.

• Ask your partner a question like, "What do you think you would do if you KNEW you wouldn't fail?"  Then sit, be present, and just listen.

• Tell a child how impressed you are by something they said.  Tell them how wise they have become and how you love listening them talk about their ideas and dreams.

• Call a friend or sibling just to tell them a joke and to remind them that they make your life richer.  Actually say the words, "(Bro, Sis, Buddy) I want you to know that you make my life <your words here>

I know.  All of it can seem a little scary.  A little uneasy.  A little vulnerable.

It is EXACTLY what the people in your life most want to feel from you.

It is EXACTLY those feelings you must conquer in order to live like you were dying.

It is EXACTLY that kind of courage that will lead you through whatever you're going through right now.

There is no other way.

You gotta go all in if you want the chance to win big.

I've got your back on this.  Let's have a long conversation about where you are in this process and how scary it feels to you.  Let's talk about why.

Most people finally gather this kind of courage on their death bed.

Let's not wait that long, buddies and buddettes!

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To Better Life and Love,

Steve

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