Hey, how are you?  Got a minute?  This will be pretty quick.

In the last two days I've gotten essentially the same question from men and women.

Men ask, "I've been working so hard to meet her needs.  I've been the man I've always wanted to be and she has been responding favorably.  But she STILL doesn't trust me.  She STILL cringes when I touch her.  When will she WANT me again?"

And this question in email from a woman sent to me by Grace Cooley.  (For the women, I recommend you check out her workshop on Being Open to Your Divine Feminine)

"What would you recommend for a couple in a situation where one partner emotionally abused the other for quite some years.  The abusive partner has sought help and seems to not be abusive any longer.  The abused partner is extremely cautious about trusting, letting their guard down and opening their heart again.  What would you recommend for this couple?"

These are common questions because they get to the BOTTOM LINE of what my coaching clients are REALLY looking for.

They want to feel a level of certainty in where the relationship is going.

They want to feel a growing energy of safety and optimism that everything will be okay.

Then they learn something HUGE.  And it's a game changer for them.

The certainty and safety they are craving in their relationship will NEVER come directly from their partner.  It comes from inside their own heart.

Inside My Own Heart?

The reasons so many men and women haven't looked inside their heart is because they live in their head all the time.

In your head is where thoughts of sadness and fear live.  It's that sadness and fear that so often shows up as ANGER and DISCONNECTION from each other.  Your head spends time directing negative movies that play all day long.  These movies serve to confirm that your sadness and fear is somehow justified.  The plot in these movies is developed from your own negative thoughts and false beliefs about yourself and your partner.

How do you change the channel?

You learn to create your thoughts from your heart.

THESE thoughts reveal the truth about your personal worth and your personal power to change your life.  These thoughts help create fun movies.  Inspiring movies.  Happy movies.

These movies are the TRUTH about your future.  The plot in the movies is always about the certainty and safety you will feel about your future. 

And that's exactly what you want, isn't it?

Is This More Woo-woo B.S.??

Yeah, I used to think that too.

Nope.  Thinking from your heart is about being open to vulnerability.  It's about seeing and speaking clearly about what YOU want and expect for yourself - FROM yourself.

It's scary territory for anyone stuck in the belief that their relationship happiness lies in the hands of their partner.  It requires you to remove blame from others.

The certainty and safety we ALL want to feel about our future comes from a place of clarity about where we're going...and who we want to take on that trip.

Experiencing joy and happiness in our relationship requires FIRST learning how to be a SOURCE of happiness and joy.  These things are not simply FELT.

Joy and happiness in your relationship always start from a place of intention within you.  They are ACTION based.  They originate from your fearless willingness to GIVE without concern for the outcome.  This comes from your heart.

No, it's not woo-woo B.S.  

It's just a little scary, I know. 

When will she want you again?  When will you feel more trust and safety?

Answer:  As soon as you choose to face the fear of thinking from your heart.

Allow me (or anyone for that matter) help you with that.

Check out the programs for men and women.

DO NOT BUY any of them without a conversation first.  I'm serious about that.

It is the only way to make sure we are meant for each other.

Let me show you how coaching feels first.  Then make your decision.

To Better Life and Love,

Steve

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