What Do You Do When She Wants to Come Back??

Published: Wed, 04/02/14

Hi buddy,

In this newsletter, I want to address the question I've heard quite a bit over the last few months from a few clients. Remember, these are guys who have done some serious work on themselves and how they interact with the world. They have a whole new clarity about where they are going and who deserves to go with them.

So, I'm not even a little surprised when they ask me this.

"Steve, I guess you have a crystal ball or something. You'll never guess who called last night. My ex called crying and wants to meet me. She went on about how sorry she was and how horrible she was. She wants to get back together. Holy crap! What do you think I should do? What do I tell my girlfriend?!"

I've seen this happen with a client's wife in the divorce court room.

I've seen this happen 3 months after the final divorce decree.

I've seen this happen 3 years after a divorce.

And, in my case, it happened before the court ordered "waiting period" had expired.

What did every single man have in common?

In every case this man had already begun some serious work. He had chosen to:

Make a MAJOR SHIFT in his mindset. Get clear on his goals.

Make a choice to change his perspective about himself and his relationships.

Begin learning about his unique ability to change the energy of his relationships

Choose to STOP blaming everyone and everything around him for his troubles

What happened next?

His self-respect skyrocketed.

He met new women effortlessly.

His kids were calmer and more respectful.

He felt calm and in control of his emotions.

His Ex wanted him back.

Happens all the time. I don't have a crystal ball - just really good data.

So, What's the Answer? What should he do?

Depends.

It depends on what his new mindset is all about. It depends on the values which are now driving him.

When you have achieved clarity about your non-negotiable, unalterable terms that define who you are and where you are going, your decisions become much easier.

In 3 cases, I know men who chose not to reconcile. They decided their path forward would only include people who shared their values and passions for a healthy relationship.

They wanted to surround themselves with people who inspired them and made them want to be a better man. Unfortunately for their ex's, that did not include them.

My clients know how to continue giving their best from a place of love. They treat everyone, including their ex, with the utmost respect, kindness, and compassionate masculine energy.

Small wonder their life has completely changed.

It makes a man wonder how his life might have gone if he learned these things YEARS ago.

Again, no crystal ball needed. I know these guys too. These men began to inspire changes in their relationship that that never thought possible.