Hi buddy,

Thanks again for opening this and reading.  I really value your trust and your being a part of this little community of ours.

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I've got 3 things to give you today. 

One is an answer to a burning question I've been hearing a lot lately.  That is, "How can I be open and honest with my wife/girlfriend when she always jumps to judge and criticize what I've got to say?"

I'll get to that in just a second.

First, many of you have asked how to see and read previous newsletters.  They are chocked full of useful content and are a good reference for you.  Here is a link to a previous letter.  You will see all previous months in the upper left corner and you can click on any one you wish.  One client asked why I "give this stuff away?".  It's selfish, really.  It's my way of preparing clients for an eventual relationship.

If men have spent a few months reading, thinking, and practicing to be a better man, they are at the right place for a personal coach.  A man who shows up without the knowledge and commitment you develop in self-study is NOT READY for coaching.

Click HERE to See Previous Newsletters!

Second, I've recently stepped outside my main comfort zone of working with only men.  A number of women have requested to be a client for the purpose of doing exactly what I'm helping YOU with.

That work is helping them to clarify and live by their values and non-negotiable relationship terms.  They want to be strong, feminine women and have a strong relationship with their man.  (Someone a lot like YOU!)  They want to know more about the "secrets" we keep hidden so well and why we do it.

Just like with men, it is a small percentage of women who are smart enough and strong enough to admit that all they can fix is themselves...and that they WANT to and WILL.

I give them the "cold, hard truth" and challenge them to be better, just like I do with you.

I created a new free report called "The Secrets of Your Feminine Power" for the woman in your life.  It comes with 3 free audio segments too.  Men seem to enjoy it just as much for the direct honesty with which I deliver the message to women about how they TALK with you, THINK about you, and GIVE you the approval you desire.

This link will take her to the page where I describe the report and give her the chance to work with me.  Same as with men, I require a pretty intense 2-hour call to make sure this is the kind of work a client REALLY wants to do.  It's important that we are a good fit and the commitment level is high.

Get the 3 Secrets to Your Feminine Power HERE!

So, let's get to the question.  I used a real example here from a friend and former client. It's powerful because it's real.  We had this discussion toward the end of our 8 weeks together.  Even though this man is ONE STRONG DUDE and has come a long way, we were still working on this tough topic - how to handle consistent criticism and disapproval from your wife or girlfriend.  (I'm sure he's reading this, thanks P. for being a part of this group!  Hope you are well my friend.)

Dear Steve,

"I know you encourage me to speak my truth, be bold and unafraid of my wife's reactions.

A friend and I have a GREAT idea for a new mobile app. We've done tons of research and he has coded a lot of it already. I know my industry needs this and our investment in developing and launching it is fairly small.

But there is NO WAY I can tell my wife! She will just deconstruct it, criticize it and me for any number of reasons she comes up with. She's really good at that and I hate it. What would you do?"

My answer?

Tell her, dang it!  Don't ASK her anything. Just simply and calmly and confidently inform her of what you're doing, for whom, why it's great and why you're passionate about it.

Let her cards fall where they may. A man doesn't withhold his desire to succeed or his passion for growth from anyone. He boldly screams it from the rooftops. Even to his wife.

Hell, you're not quitting your job or running off to join the circus.

What if she reacts badly as you expect? First, quit expecting her to be horrible! Speak to her with the loving energy and tone that tells her you fully expect her loving support. Get rid of the negative energy of fear and defensiveness.

What if she STILL reacts badly? Simply tell her that you hoped she shared your optimism, but it isn't required for you to keep going. Hug her. Kiss her. Thank her for listening. Go play with the kids. Walk the dog. Sing a song.

She must know and understand that your passion is non-negotiable. You can respect her and love her while maintaining your non-negotiable energy.

You can do this. I KNOW it!

Why would you choose to be anyone else but THAT guy? You've got 30-50 yrs. more to live. Let's start living already, buddy!

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To Better Life and Love,

Steve

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