Hey buddy,

In a minute I'm going to share one of the top 3 discussions I have with men.

Turns out it is also in the top 3 with women as well.

Everybody wants to know why THEY have to do "all the work".

Why do THEY have to be the strong one?  Why do THEY have to make the first move?

It is the same conversation, different day.

But it is one of the MOST IMPORTANT conversations you can possibly have in your life! 

The very minute you become focused on what you want to get is the moment you forget how to GIVE. 

And giving is the ONLY WAY you will find yourself achieving the dreams and relationship you long for.

That's not a friggin' bumper sticker.  It's the truth.  And you may need someone to get you there.

My new standard for interviewing prospective clients is a MINIMUM of a TWO HOUR conversation.

We get raw and real.  We talk about the TRUTH of what's going on and why.

We don't "chat" over coffee.  I'm not trying to be your friend - I'm your coach.  Though, I WILL be one of the closest confidants you'll ever have.

So, if you are serious about getting real, getting emotional, and COMMITTING to some of the toughest, most rewarding work you can do...call me.  We'll BOTH see if this is the right move.

Not everyone is cut out for this kind of work.  Let's find out where you stand.

The Conversation

Client:  Well, I found out that her "love languages" are receiving gifts and words of affirmation.

Steve:  How do you think you're doing in giving those things to her?

Client:  I guess I kind of suck because she is always saying she doesn't feel appreciated or cared for.  It's just that I'm so busy and it seems silly to have to constantly remember to get her small things she would appreciate."

Steve:  What else are you "busy" remembering if it's not what she needs from you?

Client:  I've got project deadlines, appointments, reports, budgets, my kids schedules, the "to do" list.  We're both busy.  And she never feels like just sitting down and cuddling, you know, like a back rub.  Sex seems to never be on HER list.  She doesn't seem to give a damn about MY love language."

Steve:  Would you give her gifts and remember to be more thoughtful with your words of affirmation if you KNEW you would get sex every time.

Client:  Uhhhh...yeah!

Steve:  So you would make a choice to step up your game and ability to remember what she most wants to feel from you only if you're know you'll be getting what you want from her?

Client:  That's not what I meant.  It's just that she seems to be playing the same game.  If she doesn't get what she wants first, she gets all pissy and rejects me at every turn...even for kisses goodbye.

Steve:  So who should go first?

Client:  It would be nice if we BOTH tried harder and went first at the same time.

Steve:  It would be nice.  But when someone is feeling neglected, it almost NEVER happens.

Client:  So who do you think should go first?

Steve:  I usually tell men they need to be willing to take the lead here.  Especially in a damaged relationship, women are wired to need feelings of trust, respect, and love from HIM first.  You need to man up in this case.  You must show this trust, respect, and love by giving her those things in ONLY the ways she feels them best - her love language.

Client:  So it's all on the guy, right?  I have to be perfect?  Women have no responsibility to be strong too?  Sounds like a bullshit, no win situation.

Steve:  Nope.  Whichever person in the relationship is MOST able to give their love WITHOUT CONDITIONS is the person who is best suited to lead the energy and set the tone for what they value.

It is only THIS strength of conviction in a person that stands a chance of attracting and KEEPING people in their circle of love.

It is only THIS energy that allows her to feel safe and generous in meeting your desires in the ways YOU want them to be met.

I'm working with you, mister.  I'm helping you learn how to give without being outcome dependent.

I'm helping you understand that you can give your gifts to ANYONE you want, at any time and allow them to make their choices - not the other way around. 

If you can become this person, you will win no matter what she chooses to do. That's why you hired me, remember?

If your wife hired me, we would be working on the exact same things.  But she didn't hire me. 

What are you going to do about that?

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To Better Life and Love,

Steve

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