Hi guys,

I'm writing a short e-book this weekend.

After some feedback, I've narrowed it down to three titles.

I'm picking one of them and would like your input.

Which one would you pick? 

Just shoot me an email right now.

steve@goodguys2greatmen.com

Go with your gut.  Your first pick.

I'll send it to you free as soon as it's done.

I'd love to get your comments on it as well, so be prepared for that question.

Here they are:

1.  The 5 Things You Should Say or Should Have Said Before Your
      Divorce

2.  How to Achieve the 3 Types of Confidence That Women Are
     Most Attracted To

3.  The 5 Reasons She Thinks She Will Have Better Sex If She
     Leaves You

Thanks for doing that!  I really appreciate your help with this!

By the way, if you're a Facebooker, my page HERE has some fun stuff on it.  My assistant, Kimberly, helps keep this fresh and interesting.

Here's a snippet from the Responding to Sexual Rejection course module I'm working on.  It's going to be a great module for ANY guy who is dealing with frequent and frustrating rejection in the bedroom or where ever you may be. 

You will look at the whole issue of rejection TOTALLY DIFFERENTLY after this course.  It is an in depth, soul searching, and challenging course you won't want to miss.

There will be 3 different price levels depending on how much and what kind of coaching you desire from me.

Enjoy.

From Confident Manliness by Steve Horsmon - Goodguys2Greatmen

Introduction- Responding to Sexual Rejection

First, it is important that you understand that I understand you. 

You and I both know that the only reason you want sex with your wife or girlfriend is NOT to just "get off".  You do not want sex just as a stress release or a way to live out some sexual fantasy.  You do not want sex just to get pleasure for yourself without regard to her comfort and pleasure. 

You want sex with your wife or girlfriend because of how it makes you feel.  The feelings that go with flirting, sexual tension, anticipation, attraction, and desire are incredible!  In the past you have felt those feelings with the woman you are with now or another woman.  You want to feel them again.  And again.  Those feelings which precede sex are almost as rewarding as the act of sex itself. 

Your desire for the physical act of sex for is not a game of conquest, dominance or "machoism".  The truth is when you touch her and she willingly touches you back it makes you feel awesome.  You feel attractive and desired.  You feel wanted.  You feel important.  You feel loved.

Make no mistake.  I understand that the physical act can have all those feelings AND also fulfill your desire for variety and excitement.  The best sex comes when two people love, trust, and respect each other enough to fully engage in loving sex with all the trimmings of fantasy fulfillment, "nastiness", and fun.

This module is designed for the man who has had a history of sexual rejection or is experiencing it right now.  Your wife or girlfriend has adopted a pattern of declining sexual advances and invitations.  She openly appears exhausted or exasperated by sexual suggestions or innuendo.  She thinks and says that "sex" is all he ever thinks about.  She claims to have a low sex drive or is simply not a very sexual person.

The relationship is suffering.  There is building resentment, distance, and arguments regarding sex.  Talking about it erupts into arguments and discussing it no longer seems to be an option.   If sex does happen, it is typically out of her feelings of obligation.  The quality and duration of sex is poor.  There is little to no post-coital cuddle time.  There seems to be a list of things on her mind that are much higher in priority than sex.  You feel sad, hurt, angry, and desirous of other women.  You may be spending unhealthy amounts of time looking at pornography.

Discovering and Understanding Key Principles

1.        "Reacting" emotionally or negatively to sexual rejection will ALWAYS result in INCREASING your NEEDINESS factor and REDUCING your ATTRACTION factor.  Always.  Not sometimes.  Always.  Did I say ALWAYS?

2.       She has the right to say no - as many times as she wants to.  Whenever she wants to.  She doesn't need to explain or even have a reason.  Do NOT ask "why?".   She won't tell you.  She may not even know exactly why.  Trying to be "rational" at this point will ALWAYS be a bad idea as it will immediately cause pressure, anger, and disrespect.  Work with your coach to understand her "why" so you can RESPOND accordingly.

3.       You are a sexual being.  Period.  You know it and I know it.  You've also made it obvious to her.  She gets it.  She knows you want and like sex.  SHE is ALSO a sexual being - no matter what she says.  She enjoys feeling turned on by men.  She is NOT feeling that with you if she is continually rejecting you.  That may or may not be your fault.   We will get to that later.

4.       DO NOT take it personally and become resentful.  (See #1)  No woman is contractually obligated to have sex with you (except for a prostitute, maybe).  Not even her wedding vows are legally binding commitments to making your sex life wonderful.  She needs to KNOW that you know this and respect this.

5.       Sexual rejection is normal for a relationship.  At some point in ALL relationships, either partner may not be "in the mood".  Declining an offer for sex should not be a scary affair.  If a woman feels scared, worried, pressured, guilty, judged, or criticized for declining sex, she will VERY QUICKLY resent you and CONTINUE rejecting you.

6.       A woman who resents you cannot be attracted to you.  If you end up having sex with this woman, it is ONLY because she feels OBLIGATED to participate.  She wants to keep the peace...even with a man she resents.  Obligation sex becomes the only kind of sex you will ever have.  It gets worse and less frequent as time goes by.  This is a downward spiral which is difficult to "unwind".

7.         If you want a woman to respond as an attractive, sexy women, YOU must first EQUAL the level of attractiveness and sexiness you desire.  There are specific reasons why she doesn't respond to you now like she did years ago.

8.        "Unwinding" the downward spiral of resentment and "obligation sex" CAN be done.  The process is easy but is not without serious commitment.  The process MUST be LED by you.  Only YOU have the power to unwind the negative energy of resentment and begin recreating POSITIVE feelings of trust, respect, and desire again.  You get to CHOOSE to be this man or the man who is stuck in obligation sex hell until the end of his life or marriage - whichever comes first.

We will come back to these governing principles time and time again.  It is important that you read them over and over again until you understand them. 

Discuss them with your coach.  Ask questions.  Let's get all the "yeah buts..." resolved so we can move on.  The only way your RESPONSES will be effective and authentic is for you to embrace the truth of these principles.

If you like this or have comments or questions, send them on to me. 

Have you had your free 1-hour Discovery Call yet?

Now just might be a good time for that.

Contact me now to schedule it. 

To Better Life and Love,

Steve