How To Feel More Confident In Your Masculinity

Published: Thu, 07/09/26

Updated: Thu, 07/09/26

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call, TODAY, Thursday 9th July at 12pm mountain time.

The topic for this call is: What is healthy independence and why it matters to your quality of life & relationships?

We're going to talk about:

What is healthy independence?

How is it different than “codependence”?

What does “interdependence“ look like?

How does your (and hers) insecurity sabotage the ability to be independently self-respecting and independent from controlling others?

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching Community here.
(You'll also gain access to 7 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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Has this kind of mind boggling conversation ever happened to you?

Typically, it’s with a woman…but I see it with men all the time too.

“Hey, I’ve got a question.”

“What is it?”

“The other day I was driving down that road behind the lake and HUGE mountain lion ran right in front of me! He was beautiful, but scary, because he stopped on the side of the road and looked me right in the eye. Gave me chills. I read that a mountain lion’s top speed is like 40-50 mph. And a horse is like 25-30 mph. It’s amazing we don’t hear more about horse attacks. Anyway, when I was driving I hit a patch of horrible washboards. I don’t know why they can’t maintain that road better. It’s like they fix it one day and the next day it's horrible again. It makes you wonder why people pay taxes. Anyway, what was I saying?”

“You said you had a question.”

“Oh yeah. The front end on my car is making loud a rattling noise. Could you take a look at it?”

“Sure.”

Why Do People Do This?

I had a speaking coach tell me back in 1993 that I was a “3-dimensional thinker” when I spoke in front of a group. He meant I didn’t have a clear picture of what I wanted to say, therefore, every thought led me to another thought that became disconnected from the point I was trying to get across.

And I’ve been working on this ever since.

Every time I write an email or make a video I have to remind myself, “Get to the fucking point, Steve!”

It requires me to focus on ONE THING that matters most when communicating. In fact it's the one thing that matters most when I'm thinking, planning, feeling or doing anything.

What is it?

...Clarity.

Watch this video to hear why I believe CLARITY must come first.

How To Feel More Confident In Your Masculinity

Knowledge is powerful, especially when it comes to being in control of your emotions.

You've heard me give a definition of masculinity which I believe captures the essence of being a strong, independent, self-reliant and compassionate man.

The words are CALM, DELIBERATE and PLEASED.

But it's impossible for a man to achieve those things if he is unclear.

He can't decide what to to with his career or business. He doesn't know how to respond to his meddling parents. He can't discipline his kids. And he is lost in what to think, say or do in his failing relationship.

How do you get CLARITY?

It must be consciously pursued. It's a learned skill. It must be a relentless commitment to becoming clear on who you are, what you value, what you believe, what you really want and WHERE you plan to end up in the next 30 years.

This is a new mindset where you feel naturally calm and clear-headed... with a solid awareness that you are okay...you're okay now...and you'll be okay tomorrow.

How do you figure out all that stuff?

You commit to spending time learning and growing with other initiated men. Men who are a few steps ahead of you and want you to walk with them in the journey of a lifetime.

This is why Dan & I created Goodguys2Greatmen, to get more men on this path with us.

Spending time with other men who have walked this path before you will bring you the clarity you need to become the man you want to be.

If you want to learn how to feel more confident and masculine in your marriage, then let's talk...

Apply for a free coaching call with us - in one 90 minute call, we will help you get clear about what to stop doing that's contributing to the current issues you're facing and what to do instead to improve things starting today.

What You'll Actually Get From a Call With Us

Watch the short video above to understand what you get from a free coaching call with us.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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Steven Horsmon

550 Drake Ranch Rd., Livermore, CO 80536, USA

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