How To Stop Self Doubt And Be Confident In Yourself

Published: Mon, 06/22/26

Updated: Mon, 06/22/26

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching this Thursday 25th June at 12pm mountain time.

The topic for this call is: How to Speak From Your Heart With Courage and Confidence

We're going to talk about:

What's the difference between "heart talking" and "head talking"?

Why do some people find "heart talk" so uncomfortable, annoying or creepy?

How to face the obvious risk and discomfort with bringing up "heartfelt things"?

Why can't we just point out "the elephant in the room" with others?

How can we use more humor and care when we speak from the heart?

How to simply "not give a fuck" about other people's reactions to our heartfelt expressions?

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

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Now onto today's newsletter...

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There's this thing I do every now and then that sucks the wind out of my sails quicker than...(insert your own metaphor here).

I have a feeling you might do this sometimes too.

It's a crippling habit that fills a man with doubt, uncertainty and indecision. It creates a general mindset of inadequacy and sometimes even ENVY.

What's the habit?

COMPARING YOURSELF AND YOUR SITUATION TO OTHER PEOPLE!

Sometimes I compare my business to my friends' and colleagues' businesses to see where I stand.

Sometimes I compare my lifestyle and where I live to people who seem to be happier...and warmer!

Sometimes I compare my level of productivity to other men who seem to totally have their sh*t together and get TONS more done in a week than I do.

And sometimes I compare my looks, physique and sex life to those of other men who seem to be way ahead of me in those departments.

Have you ever done that? If not...hit delete and go to your next email now.

If yes, then watch this short video to find out why we do this and what to do instead.

How To Stop Self Doubt And Be Confident In Yourself

Why do we compare??

We compare ourselves to others because we don't have or are not yet confident enough in our OWN INTERNAL GAUGE.

You must develop your own unique measure of success and happiness because other people's measures are all wrong for you.

We can't look outside of ourselves for reassurance that we're on the right path. We must define the path that's right for us and assess our own progress.

But most of us still look outside ourselves.

We look to women to affirm our value.

We watch TV, movies and porn and get a twisted version of manhood.

We envy the jobs, money, women and sex lives of other men.

Why?

Because we don't yet have a clear answer for some critical questions.

Who am I? What do I stand for?

Where am I going? What do I expect of myself when nobody is watching?

What do I expect FOR myself that I'm willing to create for myself?

My coach asks me all the time..."Do you have a vision of your future so powerful it makes you want to cry when you think about it?" (I always grit my teeth when I'm asked that.)

What to do Instead?

I'll number these for you so you won't forget.

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. (yes, you can)

2. Start calibrating your OWN gauge of happiness and success. (more below on this)

3. Stop second guessing your own power and brilliance. (yes, I know you do that)

4. Start hanging around BETTER PEOPLE as soon as possible. (you're the average of the 5 people you hang around most...be careful)

Then lather, rinse and repeat.

I go through these 4 steps over and over again. It's a process. It's a mindset.

It's a lifestyle. You get to choose to live it your way.

This is exactly why I'm committed to helping other men. I do it for ME first - then you.

Our coaching is THE BEST WAY to immediately up your game and check off numbers 1-4 above.

Come and meet amazing, smart, compassionate men who will inspire you with their dreams, their courage and their tenacity.

They are here and willing to GIVE support to you, to other men as well as RECEIVE encouragement from others.

And they are some of the best people I've ever met. Honest. Driven. Sincere. Open hearted.

The men who join our community and coaching programs are master electricians, business owners, doctors, over the road truckers, Air Force generals, lawyers, teachers, retired pastors, engineers (the choo-choo kind too!)...you name it.

Most importantly they are good men. And so are you.

If you want to stop doubting yourself and start speaking and acting more boldly and confidently then, let's talk...

Apply for a free coaching call with us - in one 90 minute call, we will help you get clear about what to stop doing that's contributing to the current issues you're facing and what to do instead to improve things starting today.

What You'll Actually Get From a Call With Us

Watch the short video above to understand what you get from a free coaching call with us.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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