How To Stop Feeling Anxious Or Depressed Due To Your Marriage

Published: Mon, 06/15/26

Updated: Wed, 06/17/26

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call on Thursday 18th June at 12pm mountain time.

The topic for this call is: How To Stop Feeling Like You're Always Getting It Wrong And Start Knowing You're On The Right Path

We're going to talk about:

What are you measuring "getting it right" by?

Who gets to decide what's right or wrong?

How do you know what's right for you?

Where in your life do you feel most confident that you're getting it right?

How can you be more in that state of feeling on the right path in every area of your life?

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching Community here.
(You'll also gain access to 7 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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There's a woo-woo Buddhist rule (The Second Noble Truth as they call it) that says:

All Suffering is the Result of Desire for Pleasure, Material Goods, and Immortality.

What the hell does that mean? And what are you supposed to do with this information?

I'll break it down for you in plain language that any guy can understand.

At the end of the day our suffering is all about desiring something from a place of scarcity and emptiness VS. desiring something from a place of abundance and fullness.

Still too woo-woo maybe.

Another way to say exactly what I mean is:

Once you become a man who feels okay about himself, his value, his dreams and his mission...you will stop suffering.

I don't mean being full of yourself. I mean being full within yourself.

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When it comes to relationship suffering, I know exactly where it hurts.

The deep yearning for connection - for touch - for appreciation - for acknowledgement and for sexual pleasure is normal and healthy.

I want those things too - as long as I can remember. And I SUFFERED a long time waiting and wondering why I felt so unsatisfied, nervous, frustrated and angry.

It was my internal sense of unworthiness and emptiness that made me suffer - not the people who refused to "make me happy".

I explain more in this video.

How To Stop Feeling Anxious Or Depressed Due To Your Marriage

The secret to ending suffering is realizing that we can never get enough of what we don't really need to be happy.

When a man finally figures this out, his energy changes. He focuses on improving himself, his attitude, his mission and his mojo.

He is already full - already happy. Not "suffering" in the least.

He doesn't wish he had more - he is determined to simply BE BETTER.

Guess what?

That's the guy who ends up getting what he wants. What he desires finds him - he doesn't need to go searching for it.

I know - I'm getting woo-woo again.

Bottom Line

When you stop frantically pursuing the objects of your desire and learn how they are attracted, it's a helluva lot LESS WORK.

This is what we teach men through our Goodguys2Greatmen coaching programs.

If you want to stop feeling anxious and depressed or worried and start feeling more consistently calm and confident again then, let's talk...

If you feel like this might be just what you're looking for Apply for a free coaching call with us - in one 90 minute call, we will help you get clear about what to stop doing that's contributing to the current state of your marriage and what to start doing to improve things right away.

What You'll Actually Get From a Call With Us

Watch the short video above to understand what you get from a free coaching call with us.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

P.S. If you've been wondering whether to join us at the Confident Man Ranch Retreat in two weeks time, there are now only two places left, click that link above to book your spot now, I promise you won't regret it and it may just inspire you to a radically different 2026.

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