Hey,
David's marriage has been tense and rocky this year.
The silence has been deafening and the cold looks have been devastating.
He wanted more than anything to reconnect with his wife, Cheryl. He wanted her to accept his card and gifts as a peace offering...to starting talking again...to re-light the spark of intimacy.
David certainly didn't expect to have sex. He simply wanted to achieve some meaningful eye contact and conversation - two things he hasn't had for weeks.
When he gave her the special card he selected (it had ALL the right words) and the roses he carefully selected from the
florist, she had a short reply.
"I wish you would stop trying so hard. Flowers just die in a few days. It's a waste of money."
And when David recovered from that, he reminded her they had dinner
reservations at the best restaurant in town at 7pm...she simply said:
"What are we going to talk about? I really have a headache anyway. You should cancel the reservations."
I know what you're probably
thinking right now. I know how angry you're feeling for poor David. And I know how badly your stomach knots up at the thought of that kind of rejection.
I also know this.
David's going to be okay. He's going to be better than
okay.
Despite the rejection and despite the uncertainty of the future of his marriage, he's found a new sense of peace within himself.
How?
He's learned how to see his reality differently.
He's learned how to THINK about her reactions more productively.
He's learned to LET GO of his expectations and
disappointment.
And he's learned how to take better care of himself and his dark narrative in his head.
Instead, he's developing a better story of what the future might hold for him...no matter what the eventual outcome is for his
marriage.
And...it's THAT mindset that suddenly improves his chances of rebuilding trust.
It's the best way to get the "eye contact and conversation" he craves.
How did he do this?
David decided to join our How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb course and community and get serious about doing his own work. He chose to invest in himself first.
If you’re ready to do what David did — invest in yourself first — here’s the simplest way
to start.
