Where do you go from here?
Good question.
A lot of damage has been done and you've got no idea if you can pull out of this mess. The uncertainty right now is killing you.
There is only ONE WAY out. You have to choose to change YOU.
There's no changing her, no fixing her, no convincing her and no reasoning with her.
She needs to trust again.
And that simply cannot happen without a consistent, committed effort on your part. Your efforts need to be ones you want to make for you....no matter what outcome occurs.
This is an effort to become the confident, honest, open, independent, decisive, clear headed man you want to be .
I help men do this through an intense, laser focused process of self-discovery and change.
The creates a rapid decrease in anxiety and increase in confidence and clarity.
And sometimes it makes a drastic improvement in their relationship.
But that's not the point.
You have to keep your eye on the ball.
We don't measure our success as a man by the reactions of others or by the outcomes we hope for. We have no control over those.
We measure our success by the degree to
which we've met our own standards for character, emotional honesty, transparency and vulnerability.
That's the strongest and most trustworthy place to live from.
And it's only from there where she just might realize she can trust again.
