How To Handle Rejection like A Champion Handles Defeat

Published: Wed, 05/27/26

Updated: Sun, 05/31/26

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call tomorrow, Thursday 28th May at 12pm mountain time.

The topic of the call is: How to Handle the Sting of Rejection Like a Champion Handles Defeat!

We're going to talk about:

Why your partner’s rejection can hurt so bad.

The psychology and brain science around rejection.

How you can change your feelings about rejection by being more aware of your thinking

What's really behind the word “no”…. No matter who says it to you?

How you can become more REJECTION PROOF

What kind of man would you get to BE if you no longer feared or dreaded rejection...?

How the way your think and respond to rejection can turn it into connection (and yes physical fun too).

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching Community here.
(You'll also gain access to 7 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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Every man I speak to wants to know how to have more passion, connection, companionship and sex in their life.

Maybe you're recently divorced and now looking to create new relationships, but you struggle to be confident in your ability to talk to any woman you choose and KNOW that you'll be able to create a spark of connection with her.

Or maybe you're in a long term relationship or marriage and you've noticed that there's less passion, less enthusiasm and less desire from her to be intimate with you.

When you try to create those connections you get rejected and it's like a punch in the gut for your self esteem and confidence.

So you get frustrated and argue with her or just stop trying.

And the longer both of these situations continue, the more desperate we get.

I know. I've been there.

Pretty sure I still have the "Desperate for love and attention" t-shirt somewhere.

Aaargghh FFS!!

I want to help you burn that t-shirt with today's video:

How To Handle Rejection like A Champion Handles Defeat

It's not her initial reaction to your invitation to connect that matters, it's how you respond to it.

Too often men tell me that they're sick and tired of being constantly rejected, dismissed or shamed when they really do want to connect and enjoy creating something fun with the woman in front of them.

When you get upset at her initial reaction to your invitation to connect, it's a choice that you're making, and it's one that doesn't help create the connection you really want.

We are far too quick to take her initial reaction personally and turn it into a story - we embellish and extrapolate way more meaning than the reality.

You make it mean something about you - but it's not about you.

I'm not saying that you should ignore your feelings - your body is an incredibly intelligent system, always providing useful information about your mental, physical and emotional state right now in this moment.

But it's important to understand that your FEELINGS are indicators of how you're thinking about the situation in front of you. We ruminate on these stories and judgements, trying to predict and interpret what someone is thinking or feeling without ever actually taking the time to find out what is REALLY true for them.

When you invite a woman to connect with you and she initially says no, you can choose to take that information and look at it from the standpoint of "She must not be attracted to me" or "things in this relationship are not OK."

But, that doesn't help you, it doesn't help her or the relationship either.

When you make an invitation from a place of being genuinely interested in understanding what's behind her reaction (why she responds that way), you're taking the first step in a dance and inviting her to join you.

A man who can see her "No" and her "Yes" as steps in a dance - necessary steps even - is a man who can create opportunities for connection wherever and whenever he wants to.

Women LOVE this type of manly confidence.

It's not bravado or alpha.

It's just a man with an honest love of the excitement and interplay of the energy of connection.

The uncontrollable beauty of life.

Like the surfer who can't wait to get out on the ocean and experience what she has to offer today.

It may be cold and flat, it may be raging and dangerous...

But it's not about catching the perfect wave, it's about enjoying every moment to the fullest.

And that's exactly how it feels to a woman to be in the presence of a man with a magnetic confidence.

He's not focused on the result. He doesn't need to be.

He gives all he has to offer to each moment and each interaction and because he lives with his heart fully open, her heart can't help but open too.

If you want to be less afraid or hurt by rejection, then let's talk...

Apply for a free coaching call with us - in one 90 minute call, we will help you get clear about what you want, what's holding you back from having it and what the right decisions will do for your self confidence and happiness in the future.

What You'll Actually Get From a Call With Us

Watch the short video above to understand what you get from a free coaching call with us.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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