What Every Man Facing A Failing Marriage Needs To Understand

Published: Thu, 05/21/26

Updated: Wed, 05/27/26

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call TODAY, Thursday 21st May at 12pm mountain time.

The topic of the call is:

What is There AFTER Becoming a "Great Man"?

We're going to talk about:

Is "mastering" your masculinity the end of your journey?

What does it mean to transform from a DOING to a BEING mindset?

How does "conventional success" lead to emotional burnout?

What values do YOU have for defining "success"?

And what if you're tired of always having to focus on your purpose, mission or passion? What then?

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

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Now onto today's newsletter...

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It's "bizarro world" when your marriage starts to fall apart. Things that used to make sense no longer makes sense.

You're used to a world where a "problem" needs to be "fixed".

You're not in Kansas anymore. "Fixing the problem" is exactly the OPPOSITE of what you should be doing.

I know. Sounds bizarre, doesn't it? But why is it true?

Men who try to "fix their marriage" are facing some of the scariest feelings they have ever had. And it's this FEAR that makes them do the most INEFFECTIVE problem solving tactics. Things like:

TALKING about things...all the time...deep and heavy talks

ASKING QUESTIONS all the time...and waiting for answers

EXPLAINING and JUSTIFYING your concerns until midnight

DEMANDING that she give you clearly worded answers and a daily dose of certainty that everything is okay.

Do any of those sound familiar?

Here's what works.

STOP making this worse...immediately. Take a step back.

Get outside and breathe.

Next?

START thinking smarter. You can't talk yourself out of a situation you behaved yourself into. And all that crap above is just more of the same! Talking, asking, explaining and demanding.

This is starting to make sense, isn't it?

Watch this video to learn what the NEW THING is that will actually make a difference for you.

This is the thing SHE LEAST EXPECTS from you. And the only explaining you may have to do is telling her why it took this long for you to figure it out. (they ALWAYS ask that, so be prepared!)

What Every Man Facing A Failing Marriage Needs To Understand

Why You Might Be Afraid of Trying Something New

I get it.

When I was starting out in this "work on you" crap, I kept my cards close to my chest.

I didn't want HER to know...and I didn't want friends to know.

I was AFRAID of what other people would think about me being in a men's group, or going to training events or even writing down my deepest, most intimate thoughts.

Guess what I learned.

F&ck that.

Now I'm telling EVERYONE! And I do it with a huge "I don't give a $&#@ grin" on my face.

And this is exactly what about 1000 men in my community are doing too. It's courageous as hell to bond with other men around a common goal.

It's fun and fulfilling to FINALLY TALK ABOUT THE STUFF WE WANT TO TALK ABOUT.

And it feels good to feel like you're finally living honestly and "out loud" for the first time.

The badass men in my community are unapologetic, open-hearted, fun loving men who are shamelessly unafraid of telling the truth about who they are, what they want and where they're going.

And I want YOU to experience this with us.

Just take ONE FEARLESS STEP FORWARD.

This is what you and your marriage need most. No more "fixing".

How about some REAL changes?

If you're done with the same patterns of arguing and disconnection and ready to try something different then let's talk...

Apply for a free coaching call with us - in one 90 minute call, we will help you get clear about what to stop doing that's keeping you stuck and circling through the same issues in life and give you options that will help you start feeling clear and confident about what to start doing to improve things tomorrow.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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Steven Horsmon

550 Drake Ranch Rd., Livermore, CO 80536, USA

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