What Needs To Happen Before You Can Restore Connection & Trust In Your Marriage

Published: Wed, 05/13/26

Updated: Thu, 05/14/26

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call, tomorrow, Thursday 14th May at 12pm mountain time.

The topic for this call is: What To Do With Chronic Boredom, Predictability and Uninspired Routine

For this Roundtable LIVE session, we want to talk about "getting stuck in a RUT". Do you ever feel just "blah"? Same day over and over again? No wind in your sails? No momentum or energy? No amusement, no laughter?

We're going to talk about:

Is the light at the end of the tunnel a train...or something better?

How to use creativity and surprise as an antidote to the routine

The difference between your circumstances and your "experience" of those circumstances

How do we actually prevent and avoid surprises and variety in of life?

What is the hidden benefit of remaining bored and miserable?

Who might be disappointed in YOUR happiness?

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching Community here.
(You'll also gain access to 7 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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Guess what men report as their #1 issue when they are staring into the face of a pending separation or divorce.

If your wife has become cold, distant, detached, defensive or constantly indifferent, you already know what it is.

It's ANXIETY.

In this context, the anxiety feels like a knotted, nauseous, agitated feeling of uncertainty that never seems to stop.

It takes our emotions from intense sadness to intense fear and, often, uncontrolled anger. Can't eat. Can't sleep.

It sucks.

And the reason it sucks is because your thinking is gripped by the notion that you have ZERO CONTROL and ZERO INFLUENCE over the alleged source of the anxiety - your wife and her feelings.

This is where some serious coaching is required.

I know you think the anxiety is 100% caused by HER and the wishy-washy uncertainty she's created in your life.

But the key to managing your anxiety is making the choice to change the way you're thinking about your loss of "control".

Watch this video, then keep reading.

What Needs To Happen Before You Can Restore Connection & Trust In Your Marriage

The Keys to Eliminating Your Marital Anxiety

As I mentioned in the video, anxiety is usually caused by a few things:

A perceived loss of control over your circumstances and emotions

A loss of connection to meaningful relationships and a sense of belonging

A loss of connection to clear and meaningful values

A loss of connection to your sense of self-respect and confidence

A loss of connection to a story of a safe and happy future

Notice that all of those are in your control.

You may THINK they are out of your control.

You may THINK you have no choices and no power.

And you may THINK the ONLY possible solution to your anxiety is to engineer the ONE AND ONLY outcome that will satisfy you.

The bad news is outcomes have ALWAYS BEEN OUT OF YOUR CONTROL.

We fool ourselves into thinking that certainty is the source of peace and well-being. That's never been true. And you must liberate yourself from requiring certainty to keep you safe and happy.

The good news is there is a proven path to regaining control of your thinking and your emotions.

You can begin to OWN your story of the future no matter what happens.

You can regain the self-respect and confidence you may have had before your thinking got polluted.

And you must begin to declare a new, empowering set of values and personal boundaries that give you a sense of autonomy and control over your responses to the things you don't control.

This "proven path" is the Goodguys2Greatmen Masculine Confidence coaching method. It's the foundation of all of our programs, retreats and courses.

Many times we help you reconnect and reinvent your relationship. A version 2.0 of you can lead the way to a version 2.0 of your marriage.

And in every case we help you reconnect and reinvent yourself, your values, your confidence and self-respect.

You learn to lead yourself and your relationships to a place that wasn't possible when you were anxious.

Are you ready to stop feeling anxious and start building connection and trust with your wife again then let's talk...

If you feel like this might be just what you're looking for Apply for a free coaching call with us - in one 90 minute call, we will help you get clear about what to stop doing that's contributing to the current state of your marriage and what to start doing to improve things right away.

What You'll Actually Get From a Call With Us

Watch the short video above to understand what you get from a free coaching call with us.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

P.S. If you've been wondering whether to join us at the Confident Man Ranch Retreat in two weeks time, there are now only two places left, click that link above to book your spot now, I promise you won't regret it and it may just inspire you to a radically different 2026.

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Steven Horsmon

550 Drake Ranch Rd., Livermore, CO 80536, USA

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