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You don’t have to say anything, she can feel it. She can feel when you’re trying to get it right, when you’re
watching her reactions, and when your mood depends on how she responds.
And the moment she feels that, the pressure goes up.
When the pressure goes up, she pulls back, not because she doesn’t care, but
because now she’s carrying something that isn’t hers, your need for her to respond a certain way.
That’s why it feels like a loop. You try harder, she pulls back, you try more, she pulls further. And then every once in a while, you drop it.
You stop tracking, you stop trying to land it, you stop needing anything from her, and suddenly she softens, she leans in, she’s lighter. Same woman, completely different experience of you.
That’s the shift, and it has nothing to do with saying the perfect thing.
It’s how you’re showing up underneath it all. It’s the difference between a man who is steady in himself and a man who is subtly asking for approval.
I walk through exactly how this dynamic works in the Live Tribe Call with Steve, and how to start
breaking that loop. You can watch it here:
