I remember how alone I felt when I heard the words.
"I just don't feel in love or attracted to you anymore. I'm not sure we ever had that kind of connection."
It was like I was the only man in the world going through it and nobody else had ever felt this kind of pain and confusion.
Nobody could possibly understand the level of desperation and anguish that comes from feeling like your life is being yanked right out from under you
Of course, I was wrong.
What I learned pretty quickly was that there were THOUSANDS of men out there exactly like me. In fact, their stories were shockingly similar.
Same sequence of events.
Same weird behavior. Same words and phrases.
Same inability for her to say anything remotely rational.
The answer, "I just don't know." was applied to every single question.
The Funny Thing Is...
The weird
thing that began to happen after a few months of intense personal work, research and talking with other men is...
I started to laugh.
Not the rolling-on-the-floor kind of laughing.
It was more like how I laughed while watching a spider monkey in a cowboy hat ride a border collie while herding sheep. (It was the half-time show at a rodeo...don't judge me.)
And yeah, it was bizarre. Freakish to watch. And oddly
funny.
Laughing at my own situation was only possible when I started to see the truth about what was happening and why.
It wasn't all about me. And I want you to know it's not all about you either.
There's a freaky half-time circus show that goes on inside the mind and body of many, many women. They start searching for something they've lost. It's out of their control and it's certainly out of yours.
Once you understand what you're
watching, the hurt starts to give way to curiosity and yes, humor.
If you're in the middle of the crap right now, I realize you might think I'm crazy. Hey, I'm just giving you a glimpse into your future.
You will get through
it. You will not die.
And if you choose to, you will learn, grow, excel and become more aware and alive than you've felt in the last 20 years.
How do I know this?
Because I'm lucky enough to help men follow the steps they need to get there every day. It's kind of like rubbing the sleep out of your eyes and feeling like you're really getting your shit together again.
There is a certain strategy you need to learn. With the strategy comes key
skills and, most importantly, a stronger MINDSET that causes you to take bold new action. Action gives you confidence, energy and momentum.
Will all this save your marriage? Who knows?
And if you focus only on
that, you'll be distracted from doing what really matters. That's focusing on you and what you can control.
I made this video to help you get clear-headed about this. This is a video about
hope.
