How To Create More Intimacy In Your Marriage

Published: Wed, 10/15/25

Updated: Wed, 10/15/25

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call tomorrow, Thursday 16th October at 12pm mountain time.

In this call we're going to talk about an "uncomfortable truth" about how women think and feel about "love". As much as we would love a simple, practical guide to her "love language", most women can't even pick a love language!

There's a deeper level of connection most women crave and that is to

"feel seen, heard and understood". But what does that even mean?

And is it really as hard as it sounds?

We will talk about:

Why early stage love ALWAYS meets her need for feeling loved

Why later stage love always erodes those feelings

What men really want and why it's not really different

How to think more clearly about what "attunement" means in a relationship

How to BE a man who creates deeper connection without struggling to "figure her out".

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching Community here.
(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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You're the kind of guy who likes straight talk.

Simple, short, sweet and to the point.

Am I right?

Me too.

That's why I made a 2.5 minute video just for you.

If you are trying everything in the book to get more affection, closeness and intimacy with your wife, this is for you.

Short and sweet.

Get out of you f*%king head, brother.

Get into your HEART.

I explain exactly what that means in the video below.

How To Create More Intimacy In Your Marriage

If you try this for only one week I think you'll be amazed.

Stop the Head games.

Stop analyzing, fixing, arguing, defending, explaining, asking, interrogating, problem solving, trouble shooting and otherwise trying to examine her or FIX her. Stop thinking that being right is actually important.

Start the Heart games.

Start really listening without judging. Start assuming the best and giving her benefit of the doubt. Start seeing her emotions as simple indicators instead of attacks. Start relaxing into a calmer demeanor...curious, confident, playful and positive.

If you give this your full intention things will change.

If you can consciously shift your presence from a guy who is DOING THINGS for affection and intimacy to a guy who is SIMPLY BEING a calm, affectionate guy who loves intimacy...things will change!

I would love you to send me an email in one week to tell how you felt in this new skin. What did you notice about the things around you? How did the energy change in your relationship?

The men in our community help each other like this every single day in our private groups. These are smart, caring, big hearted, romantic dudes just like you - and me.

$149 One-Time Payment: The Goodguy2Greatmen 3-Step Emergency Triage for You AND Your Marriage - if you need an instant change in your life and relationship Dan and I created our most powerful short course to help you start feeling more calm and confident and to know what actions to take to start changing your circumstances.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know a lack of intimacy in your marriage is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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