Hey brother,
This is Steve again.
By now, you've received a bunch of emails from us talking about the life changing (and marriage changing!) course coming up soon. This small group format coaching process has proved to be one of the most effective ways to learn, connect and CHANGE your
relationship.
And...the deadline is now here. I hope you will jump on this incredible powerful and affordable opportunity and then start living life on your terms.
Here's coach Garrett once again.
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TODAY is the only day you can pay and save your spot for the Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.
Tomorrow doors
close and it will be too late to join.
Wouldn't you love to have a date on the calendar where you confidently turn your marriage around?
You can do that by paying to save your spot now.
I deeply believe a marriage can
only work when the man is leading it with calm confidence.
I promise this course will open your eyes and help you breathe better and stand taller than you ever have.
The story below shows how confidence is needed to show the love your wife desperately needs.
Tim’s Heart Was Hurting
Tim’s world turned upside down when his wife, Bethany, told him she loved him but was no longer in love with him.
The thought of losing her ate at his mind 24/7, and the sleepless nights were taking their toll.
- He forgot his coffee cup on the roof of his truck.
- He nearly drove away from the gas pump with the nozzle still in the
tank.
- He ran a stop sign.
…and it was only 9:00 AM.
At work, Tim was distracted and unproductive.
All he could think about was getting home to see Bethany.
He hoped that if he could just spend time with her, things would turn around.
But on the way home that evening, he was ambushed by
grief and burst into tears.
The pain only worsened when he walked through the door and found
Bethany packing her things.
She acted unfazed,
almost relieved.
“How can you be so cold?” Tim asked. “It’s like you don’t realize the gravity of what you’re doing.”
“I hope you can find a woman who gives you what you need, Tim. I really do,” she replied.
Ouch.
How could she even entertain a thought like that?
Didn’t the last 15 years mean anything to
her?
Tim started begging.
“Please don’t do this, Bethany. Please...I’ll do anything for us to be together.”
“I need to move on,” she said.
Tim felt like his guts were bleeding and his mouth had gone dry.
How had the girl who once couldn’t keep her hands off him become so repulsed by him now?
Deep down, Tim knew the complaints Bethany had voiced over the years:
- “I need more emotional connection.”
- “I feel like you don’t have my back.”
- “I need you to listen, not
just try to fix me.”
- “You’re like another kid I have to take care of.”
So, he made a decision. He would prove to Bethany he could be the man she needed.
Over the next few weeks, he went
over the top trying to be “super husband”.
He cleaned the house, made the meals, took out the trash, and planned date nights.
The result?
Bethany said, “Too little, too late.” And she filed for divorce.
What Tim Could Have Done Differently
I see this story unfold with my clients all the time.
He tries to “fix” all the reasons his wife wants to leave him.
This doesn’t work to save a marriage.
It doesn’t even work in a healthy marriage.
I want you to get “fixing” out of your brain.
What Tim didn’t realize is that his FEAR is what fueled his attempts to save his marriage.
Bethany can smell this all over him.
Why was he doing all the chores? ...He feared losing her.
Why was he planning date nights? ...He feared losing her.
This only reminded her that Tim’s idea of “love” is really about him not having to feel discomfort.
It’s true.
If we hold on to a pet too long while it’s
suffering, it’s not love; it’s us trying to avoid our own suffering.
Love would put the pet down to end its misery.
Tim’s efforts only proved how dependent he was on her to be ok.
The Deeper Love Your Wife Wants
Love is not proven to your wife by how miserable you’ll be without her.
Genuine love is your ability to open yourself through a negative feeling triggered by another
person and feel the calm on the other side without needing the other person to change.
When you shut down, react, or turn away from what triggers you, you’re closing yourself off from being love.
Tim was a people pleaser,
what Dr. Robert Glover calls “the Teflon Man.”
That means he could smooth over anything, talk his way out of anything, and never set his wife off with his words.
But this is a feminine way of behaving, and it destroys attraction
with your wife.
She is drawn to masculine energy.
A man who is direct, unshaken, and doesn’t use fear as his GPS.
Even when Bethany said, “Too little, too late,” that was an opportunity to show love and allow her to have that feeling without trying to fix it.
If Tim had been grounded in himself, he could have breathed through his trigger, found the calm on the other side, and said something like: “I understand. Tell me more.”
THAT is the connection Bethany had been longing for all along...And Tim's insecurity prevented him from even seeing the opportunity when it presented itself.
How To Be the Loving Man She Can’t Resist
You start building deeper connections with those you care about.
You become the man women can’t resist because femininity can’t help but be attracted to masculinity.
Course sessions will run at 5:00 PM Pacific on:
- October 11th
- October 25th
- November 8th
- November 27th
Bonus
Segment: "How To Handle Conflict Between Your Wife And Parents"
