Let's dive straight into one of the most sensitive and raw moments a man can face in his marriage: threats of betrayal of intimacy. When your wife has eyes for another and is repulsed by your touch, feelings of rejection can cut deep. But the way you respond in that moment makes
all the difference. Keep reading and you’ll see why.
Nick’s Wife Wanted Another Man
Nick sat facing his wife, Mindy, unable to speak.
What she just said
knocked the wind out of him.
His mind raced down memory lane.
Eighteen years ago, Nick and Mindy were fresh out of high school.
They met at a youth retreat where they had both volunteered.
Back then, Nick’s heart skipped a beat whenever he saw Mindy.
The way she laughed, the bounce in her step, and the way she made everyone feel welcome was
intoxicating.
A few months after they met, their friendship turned intimate.
Neither of them had ever been with anyone else.
Within two years, they were married.
Knowing they had both given each other their virginity was something Nick deeply cherished.
That’s why Mindy’s words now gutted him.
“I think we should separate and start seeing other people,” Mindy said. “I just feel like I never got to live out my college days, and I’ve missed out on so much.”
Nick could hardly wrap his brain around this.
“You… you want another man to have sex with you?” he stammered.
“Well, I don’t know. I just feel like I don’t know what I like, because I’ve only ever been with you,” Mindy replied.
Her words made Nick feel sick to his stomach.
“The fact that we've never been with anyone else is something I deeply value about us!” Nick said.
“This relationship
isn’t working for me, Nick. I’ve given you a thousand chances to make changes, and I’m done being disappointed.”
Nick’s eyes filled with tears.
“Don’t do this, Mindy. Please...I’ll do whatever you need. I
promise.”
His voice cracked with desperation and pain.
“Honestly, this feels insulting that you would wait until I’m done to start caring. You’ve had years to show me you care. It’s too late now.” Mindy said.
Nick didn’t sleep a wink that night.
He could hardly breathe.
Every time he pictured another man touching his wife, he burst
into tears.
He felt frustrated that he could care about his wife so much and yet she couldn't feel it.
Wasn’t there anything he could do to turn this around?
What To Do When She Wants Another Man
The story above has been lived by countless men I’ve worked with.
I’ve been down the path myself, so I know firsthand how dark it feels.
Feeling desperate is putting it mildly.
We’d gladly give up our retirement or cut off an arm just to stop our wife from giving her body to another man.
But here’s what I want
you to understand: trying to control the situation is not the answer.
When has trying to control your wife ever worked out well?
Exactly.
What a man needs to do in this moment goes against everything his feelings are screaming at him to do.
He has to let go of needing a specific outcome.
That’s right...He has
to release his attachment to whether she stays or goes.
Many of my clients found their wife chose HIM over another man when he stopped chasing her and when he stopped trying to force specific outcomes.
That
kind of confidence is nearly impossible to have if your entire sense of well-being has been feeding off your wife’s intimacy and love.
That feeding?
That is exactly what has exhausted her.
By the time she wants out, just your breathing feels like you’re feeding off her.
Your mere presence feels like something she needs to manage.
No woman can stay in a relationship that feels like that.
We don't even like being that needy towards her.
But many women fall back in love again when the man becomes so secure in himself that he doesn't need
her to be ok.
How To Stop Feeding Off Her To Be Ok
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