I hear it from men
all the time. "Things got a little better during vacation this summer, but now the kids are back in school and my wife is being hurtful again". Lucky for you, this email gives some insight into how to handle a hurtful wife with grace and strength...A skill every man learns in our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course.
She Was Rude To Him in Front Of The Kids
Nathan is packing school lunches for his three kids while they eat
breakfast.
Bethany walks into the kitchen.
“Don’t put the grapes in the kids’ lunches, stupid. Those are for me.”
Nathan takes the grapes out and sets them on the counter.
Bethany pours herself a coffee.
“Are you going to fix the windshield wiper before work, or are you too dumb to figure that out, too?”
Nathan feels hurt.
“I’m not an idiot,” he snaps back.
Bethany turns toward the kids.
“Looks like Daddy doesn’t love us. Guess we’ll have to drive in the rain with no wipers today.”
Nathan raises his voice.
“Don’t talk about
me in front of the kids like that, it’s rude!”
Bethany rolls her eyes as she leaves the room, tossing over her
shoulder: “What a wimp.”
Be Strong
Without Being An A-Hole
The passive-aggressive comments Bethany made to Nathan were immature and emotionally abusive.
A self-respecting man won’t tolerate being mistreated.
But many men try to stand up for themselves in ways that are just as immature as the abuse they’re reacting to.
That response usually shows up in one of two forms:
Passive:
stonewalling, ignoring, or withholding something as payback.
Active: lashing out like a cornered dog.
Both are immature.
Immature men let other people’s
behavior dictate their emotions.
A-holes have no regulation, and they can be pushed around like puppets on strings.
Masculine strength looks different.
Masculine strength holds its ground and stands up for itself, but it does so from a place of worth, calm, and value.
How To Stand Up To Your Wife With Masculine Strength
Masculine strength is mostly shown in the tone
you use, not your words.
The way you hold your shoulders or relax your jaw holds all the power.
If you’re tight, clenched, or loud, you're matching your abuser's lead.
A boundary can sound like this: “Cupcake, stop. We only speak respectfully to each other.”
It’s direct.
It’s loving.
But if it doesn’t have a consequence when crossed a 2nd time, it’s powerless.
The consequence could be that you leave the room or limit her access to something you provide.
When you do this with a look of love in your eyes and a vibe of self-worth, you are inviting her to a higher standard of interaction with you.
That’s what grace and masculine strength looks like when your wife is being rude or nasty.
How To Increase Masculine Strength
Until you develop inner confidence, you’ll react to your wife instead of responding.
We’ll introduce a new way of
thinking that keeps you clear, focused, and deliberate even in the face of conflict or uncertainty.
These are crucial steps in developing a strong masculine frame.
Feel your strength, clarity, and mojo again!
You’ll love becoming a man with a backbone women can’t resist.
We're looking for 8 men who are serious about making huge strides in their masculine development.
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Registration opens for 24 HOURS ONLY on October 4th!
Course sessions will run at 5:00 PM Pacific on:
- October 11th
- October 25th
- November 8th
- November 27th
Bonus
Segment: "How To Handle Conflict Between Your Wife And Parents"
