My name is Mark Drezga and along with fellow GG2GM coach, Garrett Prettyman; we have developed The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course to help men become powerful leaders in their lives and amazing partners to their wives.  

Does this sound like you brother?:
 

• You’re calm and confident at work but then get home and walk on eggshells around your wife?
• You’re constantly checking up on her to see if she is alright, what she's up to and what she has planned?
• You’re constantly finding yourself in arguments and have no idea how they even began?

If you are, then you know how tiring, confusing and frustrating it is to live this way.
 

Everything feels as though it is out of your control and nothing you do helps.
 
We know, we've been there!
 
The simple truth is you are handing your power over to her and everyone around you!
 
What YOU want is to know that she will always be there to look after you.

You are chasing certainty and until you get it, you will manipulate and coerce her into meeting your needs.

 If that doesn't work, your inner "little boy" will react and stamp his feet until he gets what he wants.

He needs "mommy" to make him feel secure.

Mature Men Cut The Apron Strings

Mature men don't need mommy to give him certainty. 
 
Chasing certainty is tiring and pointless.

It's better to become adaptable and creative in how you handle life's challenges because you have control over how you respond but NOT over what happens.
 
What SHE wants is to know you can look after yourself and not need to rely on her for anything.
 
A man who doesn't need a woman to look after him has the capacity to look after her.

He demands nothing from her other than her showing up as herself.

He accepts how she is in each moment.
 
You might ask, “But why can't I rely on her? Why should SHE relax and not me?”
 
Because when your wife is comfortable, relaxed, and expressing her feminine gifts, she's the kind of woman you love to be with. 
 
At the beginning of your relationship, she didn't have to look after you and chances are you were living your own life as well. 

This is part of what attracted her to you.
 
Over time, relying on her has worn her down. 

Add some kids in the mix and it's easy to see how she could mistake you for another child and start treating you as one.

Relying on her as a crutch is what a child does with mama.
 
You are a MAN damn it! (did I mention I might hit a nerve?)

There Is No Shame In Having Needs
 
The path to self-reliance begins with taking responsibility for yourself and not burdening others with your issues.

By going to men for support and guidance you are NOT a burdening them, but connecting and growing with them.

Chasing certainty leads to manipulating and controlling things around you in order to "feel" more secure in the world.
 
A habit of manipulating others in order to have your needs met shows a degree of shame around having the needs in the first place.

If there was no shame you would happily ask for what you want and then make choices based on whether or not people are willing to meet your needs.
 
When we are embarrassed by what we want, we skirt around and try to have the needs met in a COVERT way. 
 
This is how we create transactional relationships that are built upon shaky foundations.
 
If one person decides they no longer want to meet the needs of the other, the relationship crumbles.
 
The result of becoming more self-reliant is that you avoid crumbling as you rely on only yourself to maintain your sense of security.
 
YOU are your own foundation and nothing outside of you can take that away.
 
What does a man who is self-reliant look like?

A self-reliant man is able to:

• Soothe himself
• Motivate himself
• Challenge himself
• Understand himself
• Satisfy himself

THIS is a man taking responsibility for himself and filling his own tank.

A man's “full tank” translates to an abundance of love, affection, kindness and presence and he KNOWS that he can never run out of these things! 
 
He lives in a state of ABUNDANCE.

He is free to give with no strings attached.
 
Self-Reliance Allows Her To Be More Feminine

The question I know you can’t get out of your head is:
"Why shouldn't SHE support me?! Why should I do EVERYTHING while she just gets to relax?"
 
And my  answer to that is:
"Why should she? Would you rather that she did these things because she wanted to or because she felt obligated to?"
 
One of the side effects of becoming self-reliant is that we feel very calm, confident and secure in ourselves.  

We are more consistently in a place of peace and well-being.
 
A man in this place tends to attract people who are more than happy to connect with him for no other reason than because they WANT to.

Which if you’re honest with yourself, is all you want from your wife anyway.

You have total control in becoming a confidence, self-relent man whose strength invites women to be more feminine around you. 

In our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course, we give you the tools you need to be more clear, direct, and unshakable.

We teach you how to father your inner little boy so you stop needing your wife to give you certainty.  

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