It’s Easier To Achieve The Impossible Than The Realistic
When you set a “realistic” goal in your relationship, it usually sounds like this:
“Maybe we can stop fighting so much.”
“Maybe she’ll have sex with me once in a while.”
“Maybe we can just get back to where we were.”
Do you hear how uninspiring that is?
When we ask you to paint a vision of the future that scares you and inspires you, something inside you starts to change.
“What if you built a marriage so alive and fun your kids can’t help but want what you have in their
future?”
“What if you became a man who's so calm, confident and playful, your wife couldn't keep her hands off you?”
“What if you lived with so much passion and energy for the future you're creating, that it attracted her instead of numbing her?”
Now that’s a whole different ball game. Can you feel the difference in those last three statements?
That’s what being willing to think about the impossible does. It’s easier to achieve because it forces you to change how you think about yourself.
Men are wired to rise to a challenge.
When was the last time you felt passionately alive?
Was it when life was “fine,” safe, and comfortable? Or was it when you were
facing something that scared the hell out of you, but you faced it anyway?
Every man reading this has a moment in his past where he felt unstoppable - on the field, in business, in an adventure, maybe even in the bedroom.
That moment didn’t
come from keeping things realistic. It came from knowing he could create something more.
People are responding to your energy all the time, so when you show up to your marriage with that same energy, I guarantee you that things will change.
She
won't feel your disappointment anymore - she'll feel your confidence.
She won't feel your neediness anymore - she'll feel your courage in the face of challenge.
She won't feel your criticism anymore - she'll feel your strength and purpose.
That’s what brings her desire back. That’s what makes her respect you again.
Not begging. Not negotiating. Not “fixing the problem.”
Fixing is a dead end.
When you spend your days trying to patch the holes and reduce dissatisfaction, you never actually create anything new.
Vision creates growth.
When you dream bigger, you call out the best in yourself. And as you grow, your marriage can finally grow too.
Big possibilities beat small tweaks.
It’s not about convincing her to try a date night again. It’s about choosing to take a risk and making fun, exciting experiences in your life without needing to get her approval first.
Reconnect with yourself.
Before you can reconnect with her, you’ve got to wake yourself up. Get back to music, movement, adventure, whatever makes you feel alive.
Bring spontaneity and fun.
Routine kills intimacy. Spontaneity revives intimacy. Say yes to your goofy self, surprise her, make yourself laugh out loud every freaking day.
Playfulness over pressure.
Be the guy who can laugh at himself, who doesn’t need
everything to be heavy and serious. Let her feel a different energy from you again. One she maybe hasn't felt for a long time...
This isn’t about “tricking” your wife into liking you again.
It's about you becoming a man YOU respect. A man who feels
INSPIRED by who he’s becoming. A man who takes ownership of his energy, his vision, and the LEADERSHIP of his own life and future.
Because when you do that, everything in your life responds to it.
And then we hear stories like these:
“When I stopped obsessing about what she wasn't doing and started focusing on my vision for the future, she started asking me questions and wanting to know what I was up to.”
“When I brought back my goofy playful side, we started flirting again and our sex life came back to life.”
“When I
reconnected with myself, I finally felt confident again - and apparently she liked that!”
You can’t beg your way into respect. You can’t argue your way into affection. But you can grow into the kind of man who naturally inspires it.
Here’s our challenge to you this week:
Stop asking yourself, “How do I fix this?”
Start asking, “What kind of relationship do I want to create?”
And then go even bigger: “What kind of man do I need to become to make that possible?”
This is about excitement. About vision. About waking up your masculine energy.
That’s what
your marriage is craving. That’s what she’s craving.
You don’t need to fix her.
You don’t need to settle for realistic goals.
You don’t need to live in damage control mode.
What you need is a vision that scares you a little and inspires you a lot.
Are you ready to
start creating the impossible?
What have you got to lose?
Here are some options for you to get started
today:
