My name is Mark Drezga and along with fellow GG2GM coach, Garrett Prettyman; we have developed The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course to help men become powerful leaders in their lives and amazing partners to their wives.  

Are YOU happy brother?

If not, why?

Many men I work with report they struggle to be happy and they often blame their wife for it.

They..

• Can't imagine being happy without being married
• Fear dying alone
• Feed off ANY attention they can get from their wife

We all have access to happiness whenever we want it.
 

We are always only one thought away from happiness.
 

But your definition of happiness might need some fine tuning. 

The Path To Temporary Happiness

The Merriam-Webster dictionary describes it like this:
HAPPINESS - Noun
Definition of happiness:
a) A state of well-being and contentment
b) A pleasurable or satisfying experience

Most people would agree with this definition.

However, there are actually two ways to think about happiness.

The first is to say that it is the opposite of sadness!
 

If we accept this, then we can create a very simple formula to create more happiness: An absence of sadness = happiness
 

This is problematic approach. 

This path leads us to avoiding sadness at all costs.

We shy away from anything that makes us feel sad in the hope of maintaining our happiness.

Sadness feels horrible so we learn to avoid things that make us feel this way.

So begins our journey of seeking things that make us feel good without realising there is no guarantee they will make us happy.

We'll pursue pleasure as a distraction from sadness. 

This distraction from sadness can convince us that there is an absence of it.

Men who have fallen victim to this logic are the ones who believe that if only they were having more sex or getting more affection from their wives everything would be great again.

They can't imagine being happy not getting what they want.

Here is the flaw in this logic:  Pleasure does NOT equate happiness. 

Just ask any drug addict!
 

There are countless accounts of people who drown themselves in pleasure in an endless pursuit of happiness only to discover their appetite is never satisfied.

This leads us to creating a story in our heads that the source of our happiness is somewhere OUTSIDE of us.

We chase it as if it were a tangible thing that we can hold and lock away that will fix all our problems the moment we find it.

We burden people with being our source of happiness and when they no longer want the responsibility, we panic.

We become reliant on others for our happiness!

People on this path also tend to believe that achieving their goals is a reliable source of happiness.

Sound familiar?

The Path To Long-Term Happiness

There is a different kind of happiness available to us –  it is the space where ALL of our emotions can co-exist.

One look at a child before they start separating themselves by the creation of their ego (when they begin to say me, my and mine) reminds us of this.

It is a place that we are ALL born with - and lose connection to - over the course of our lives.

It is in the one place that you would never think to look - INSIDE YOU.

Do you remember being happy?

Can you recall the time BEFORE you started dating your wife?  

The time when you didn't have her or the relationship, but instead you had your own life?

Well, you can be sure she does!

She remembers it because THAT is the man she fell in love with and was initially attracted to.

The man that had things to do and passions to pursue.

He had a life to live and a spark in his eye that was not only attractive but also INSPIRING to her!

She had a sense that this guy didn't NEED her for anything but was with her because he wanted to be.

The feminine energy in your wife was drawn to your sense of direction and the promise of getting to join on that ride.

Where is THAT man?

If your wife is saying that she is no longer attracted to you and that you have changed; it could be because you HAVE changed and who you changed into relies on her for everything.  

Does this sound like who you've become?

• You can't make decisions without her...
• You can't motivate yourself without her...
• You can't enjoy yourself without her...

If so, you have become a weight that she is forced to carry while juggling her own dreams and desires.

This is even more apparent if you have children. 

If you you NEED her to look after you like another kid, she will lose her sexual attraction for you.  

A mature man places himself outside the context of being another child to care for so that he can show up as a romantic lover. 

How does he do this?

By acting as a leader and provider who is already happy. 

Your Next Step To Finding Your Happiness

In our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course, we will help you:

1. Find YOUR joy and YOUR happiness

There must be something that you LOVE doing.

We'll help you uncover that lost part of yourself.

2. Practice relying on yourself for EVERYTHING

An important part of maturing into a man is cultivating the strength to not only support yourself but also offer support to those you care most deeply about.

3. BE happy

Things change instantly when you BEGIN from a place of happiness.

As we spoke about before, happiness is NOT pleasure and it is NOT an absence of sadness.

If you are happy when entering an exchange with your wife, it is easier to remain detached from her emotions and the outcome.

If you are unhappy and want her to make you happy, you increase your chances of leaving disappointed.

Today is the day everything turns around for you.