My name is Mark Drezga and along with fellow GG2GM coach, Garrett Prettyman; we have developed The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course to help men become powerful leaders in their lives and amazing partners to their wives.  

Are you a man who:

• Believes that the only way a marriage can be "successful" is to stay together?
• Fears that if he lets go of his wife she will leave?
• Relies on his wedding vows to justify remaining in the situation he is in?

Having a woman ask for space or separation can be one of the most painful, frightening  and confusing experiences you will ever have!

But here's the #1 cause of divorce we see everyday with the men we work with: It's the FEAR of divorce. 

You FEAR giving her space or separation because you feel you've already drifted so far apart that it's just the next step towards divorce.

But what if you dropped your fear of divorce?

What if the space or separation she needs is not a matter of proximity, it's an energetic experience?

The fear of divorce is an energy of clingy neediness making your wife feel stifled and held back. 

It's suffocating and makes her feel like she's trapped in a cage.

Here is the philosophical part of what's going on: she craves the spirit of acceptance and freedom that comes with unconditional love.

Unconditional love is the choice to love despite the things that you don't like about the person.

When you fear losing something, it's natural to hold onto it tighter.

However, holding on too tightly tends to crush the things that we fell in love with to begin with.

By Letting Go, The Target Draws The Arrow

The anxiously-attached person tends to hang on tightly to something out of fear of losing it.

This makes logical sense in the practical world.  

If you're trying to stop a balloon from blowing away in the breeze, then holding on to it tightly will stop it from blowing away.
 

But if you are trying to stop someone from leaving you, then holding on tighter can make their escape even more appealing.
 

There is a paradox at play here when people are involved.
 

On one hand you love someone deeply and don't want to let them go.
 

You are attracted to them. 
 

You feel excited when they choose you and want to spend time with you.
 

You become addicted to it.
 

And very quickly, you tell yourself that in order to keep feeling this way, nothing outside of you can change.
 

Our minds assume that if we hold on to whoever makes us feels good and never let them go then we can experience joy endlessly!
 

So we hold on tighter and tighter without realising we are killing the very spark that attracted them to us.
 

Feminine can only be attracted, not forced or held onto. 

The act of holding onto her tighter kills the very things about her we are try to have from her in the first place.

Things like being chosen, wanted, and desired. 

No one wants to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them.

 And yet, we often create this situation without even realising it.
 

Setting Her Free Is Attractive

Neediness is NOT attractive.

At least not to a healthy and self-reliant person like your wife.
 

If you find yourself thriving on the feelings of being "needed" then you have relegated someone else to the role of being your leader.
 

They determine your moves and pace while you simply wait for instructions to follow.
 

As resentment builds on both sides, you each start to blame each other for the situation you are in.
 

Obligation is not sexy.
 

Confident, loving decisions are.

If you love someone, set them free.

Do you want a partner who truly wants to be with you or one that stays because they believe they can't leave?
 

I've yet to meet a guy who doesn't want his wife to want him.
 

In fact, that is one of the top requirements for their ideal relationship.
 

They want to be CHOSEN over every other guy. 

It's super sexy!
 

When you try to stop her from leaving by guilting, shaming and reminding her of the obligations she has to you and the kids, you are limiting her options in an attempt to force her to choose you.
 

Under these circumstances, even if she does choose you, you both know it wasn't because she wanted to.

She had no choice but to choose you.

For there to be choice there must be freedom to make that choice.

The love that is rich in attraction and reverence can only be found in her CHOICE to be with you.

For her to choose you, she must have the chance to choose others as well.

How To 'Let Go' To Have What You Want

The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course will guide you on your path to being secure enough to let your wife chose you by giving her the option to. 

You'll love how it feels to take control over YOUR own happiness!

When both partners take responsibility for their own happiness, the relationship shifts from being transactional to inspirational.

It changes from obligation to freedom.

You both become CREATORS of the lives that you want.

If you both want a similar life then the relationship becomes the space where you can make it happen.

If each of you want something different and being in the relationship holds you back, then no amount of guilt, shame or obligation is going to make it work.

As coaches we understand that denying freedom always leads to resentment.

Just ask any guy who gave up everything to be with a specific woman if he's happy.

Now is the time to break the cycle and connect to YOUR joy.