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George's Wife Has Been Venting Behind His Back
George is holding his wife’s phone.
A message lights up: “Thanks for sharing last night, I hope today goes better.”
The sender?
Some guy named Steve.
George’s stomach twists.
What did she share with him last night?
Their marriage has been strained for years… but this? This feels like betrayal.
He storms into the bathroom where she’s doing her hair.
“What did you tell this Steve guy last night, Lindy?”
“I
told him you've been so angry lately and I'm just fed up with feeling like nothing I do is good enough for you ”.
George raises his voice. ”I haven't been angry lately, what are you talking about? And who is this Steve guy?"
Lindy throws her hands up. “You're freaking out over nothing, George. This is what I'm talking about. I’m tired of you being so controlling. I feel smothered.”
She walks out of the bathroom, grabs her purse, and heads out the
door.
Moments later, George hears her car backing out of the driveway.
George feels misunderstood. Disrespected.
The house they live in...he built with his own two hands.
The car Lindy drives...he bought with his hard-earned cash.
And it hurts that none of that seems to matter to her.
George still loves Lindy.
He longs for a deeper connection with her.
But every time they talk, it leaves them both
frustrated.
The frustration, the confusion, and the sting of rejection weigh on him.
It keeps him up at night.
It drains his focus at work.
“If only I could get Lindy to appreciate how much I love her and stop disrespecting me, George mutters, “then our marriage would finally feel better.”
The Deeper Issue George
Missed
George sees his wife as the source of his suffering.
He could argue a strong case for why her behavior is unacceptable.
He says he loves
Lindy, but what he’s really focused on is how she makes him feel.
He doesn’t like feeling rejected.
He doesn’t like feeling betrayed.
But what if I told you those feelings don’t actually come from how your wife lives her life?
Other people’s actions only mirror our illusions back to us.
Illusions are the meaning we
attach to situations, based on how we decide to interpret them.
If you believe dogs should never shit on your bed, you’ll feel upset when one does.
But the dog is just living its best life.
Dogs can’t actually put suffering into your body.
Your illusion of the situation does that.
Until you can set the feelings of your
illusions aside (no longer letting them dictate your well-being) you’ll keep falling into the same traps:
- Raising your voice
- Defending your logic
- Making demands
- Arguing
Your wife can’t respect that man.
And a woman who doesn’t respect you won’t act trustable, soft, or open-hearted with you.
See the power in
this?
George keeps criticizing things about Lindy that bother him.
He means well.
He wants a
relationship where he feels loved and respected!
But his approach to fix things only works for machines and the workplace, but not at home.
George needs to deal with his illusion of suffering he’s living in before he can lead the
relationship or set boundaries with any kind of clarity or compassion.
When To Put Your Foot Down
Nobody needs to stay in a relationship if their partner doesn't share the same values.
But most men aren't clear on those values.
They use feelings like annoyance or disrespect as the "green light" for when they should go head-to-head with their wife.
"Being contrary and contradicting to others only breeds resistance in them, and fighting only ties us to our enemy. Until we can act independent of our naysayers, we remain under their control." ~Willard Beecher
How would you like to have that kind of confidence?
To be a man who acts from his own values and agency, rather then be controlled by his feelings?
This kind of man can make even the hardest choices (like ending a relationship) from a loving, calm place.
There is no resentment.
There is no "eye for an eye".
If his wife is incapable of living to his values of respect or fidelity, he can
let her go to have whatever she needs because he loves her (not because he can’t stand her).
How To Lead Respect Back Into Your Marriage
Relationships can be delicate, with lots of moving parts.
Kids. Grand kids. Business assets. Inheritance funds.
Most men would rather save a relationship than walk away.
What saves a marriage doesn’t work 100% of the time… but the ones that
are saved all follow the same path 100%.
The process is simple:
- Detach from her being your source of well-being.
- Confidently create the life you love.
- Then, in time, invite her into your awesome experiences.
But here’s the problem...most men get stuck.
He tells himself he’ll finally be happy when sex comes back… or when she stops venting to guys behind his
back.
That’s backward thinking.
It’s time to stop putting your happiness into people, things, or circumstances.
We help you create a roadmap so you can face any hardship with clarity and calm, deliberate action.
And guess what?
Women
are drawn to that kind of man.
Many men have saved their marriages by taking this course.
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Bonus Segment: "How To Handle Conflict Between Your Wife And Parents"
