How To Stop Feeling Like A Doormat Or An ATM In Your Sexless Marriage

Published: Tue, 09/16/25

Updated: Tue, 09/16/25

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call on Thursday 18th September at 12pm mountain time.

We're going to shift from talking about resentment to CONTENTMENT. This is about our choice to CREATE a new reality instead of feeling like a victim of it.

How to define and describe what you REALLY want...instead of what you don't want

How to engage the energy of your future desired state RIGHT NOW

How to create your "Average Ideal Day" ...instead of wishing for the "Perfect Day" you think you want

How to build daily momentum by taking clear, courageous and consistent actions over time.

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable here.
(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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In this next video conversation, Dan and I dive into another area of personal growth.

We call it the, "Saying Yes Got You Here. Saying No Will Get You Where You Want To Go Next." phase

of growth.

Yeah.

You probably say "yes" too much. Too agreeable. Too negotiable. Too compromising. Always bargainning.

This way of being can be exhausting. It will drain your energy and suck the life out you!

Why?

Because at every turn you're not trying to create what you REALLY want...you're just trying to keep the peace and

stay comfortable. And this can secretly and insidiously make you angry...at yourself!

We believe the FOUR places where you really need to pay attention to your "Hard No's" are:

The people you choose to be around
The places you choose to hang out
The habits you choose to engage in
The things you choose to make a priority

By the end of the video, we would love for you to leave a comment on your very first step of saying no.

Tell us which of the four areas you've chosen and why.

Then? Do it. Simple right?

How To Stop Feeling Like A Doormat Or An ATM In Your Sexless Marriage

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What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know a lack of affection and sex in your marriage is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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