The Most Effective Way To Improve Your Marriage

Published: Sat, 09/13/25

Updated: Sat, 09/13/25

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call on Thursday 18th September at 12pm mountain time.

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How to define and describe what you REALLY want...instead of what you don't want

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How to create your "Average Ideal Day" ...instead of wishing for the "Perfect Day" you think you want

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Now onto today's newsletter...

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I like to keep things stupidly simple. How about you?

Most things are not as complicated as they seem. And when it comes to men "trying to figure out women"...it's not that complicated.

The most common thing we try to figure out is this.

How can I make her happy?!?!

I'm sure you've read a ton of stuff already that explains why you can't "make her happy"...or anyone else for that matter. And they are right. You can't.

But guess what?

That's actually a good thing because now you can freakin' relax and stop trying so hard. You can stop jumping through hoop after hoop just hoping something works.

Here is the stupidly simple thing you need to help her feel happy with you.

Be a happy man.

Every single happy relationship that I know has one thing in common. It's a happy man who stands at the helm with a grin on his face and a beer in his hand.

Every truly "happy wife" I know isn't happy because her husband is constantly stumbling over himself trying to "make her happy".

She is happy because HE is a happy, secure, confident, curious, consistent and self-reliant man.

And with him at the helm of his own happiness, SHE finally relaxes. She can finally stop mothering his incessant need for her to be happy with him. She feels safe accepting his lead.

And THAT is where the really good stuff in your relationship will come from.

In this video, I give you some "fatherly advice" that nobody ever gave me. It's the keys to the kingdom. And YOU have total control over it.

The Most Effective Way To Improve Your Marriage

"Why do I always have to be perfect??"

This is the most common question I get when guys hear this.

Listen. You DON'T always have to be perfect.

You simply have to WANT to be better. You have to realize that you get to create a "mostly sunny" day or a "mostly cloudy" day.

You simply have to stand up, put your shoulders back, take a deep breath and say to yourself, "Screw it. If I want a happy marriage I'm going to learn how to BE a happy man no matter what is happening around me!"

When you begin the process of learning the art of self-reliance there's a point in time where a 2x4 smacks you in the head.

It hurts a little...but it's a 2x4 of love.

It's an amazingly CLEAR realization that everything good in your life and everything happy in your life begins with you.

And when you accept total responsibility for becoming the grinning captain of your own ship you will feel absolutely liberated from anxiety, anger, fear and "unhappiness".

And guess what happens to the people who live with you.

They will want whatever it is you're drinkin'.

We've created a number of ways to teach you the tools and give you the support you need to transform your THINKING and start KNOWING you're a happy man in any situation:

$149 One-Time Payment: The Goodguy2Greatmen 3-Step Emergency Triage for You AND Your Marriage - if you need an instant change in your life and relationship Dan and I created our most powerful short course to help you start feeling more calm and confident and to know what actions to take to start changing your circumstances.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know a lack of warmth, kindness and affection in your marriage is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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