Is There Anything Worth Saving In Your Marriage Or Should You Cut Your Losses Now?

Published: Sat, 01/10/26

Updated: Sat, 01/10/26

Hey brother,

I recently received an email from a really nice, caring and frustrated wife. I'll call her "Elizabeth".

Elizabeth is way past the midpoint of becoming a Walk Away Wife.

You see, she's been watchng a ton of our videos and reading articles and is making a last ditch effort the get her husband's attention.

I'll call him "Dave".

In the video, I offer the best "couples advice" I can think of.

As you'll see, it's not "couples advice", it's a challenge to both Elizabeth and Dave as individuals.

In her email, she wondered if there still might be anything worth saving in their marriage. If you get these newsletters, you already know what I told her in the video.

Do NOT try to save this marriage. This one sucks. Why not decide to create something you've never had before...something much better?

The current version of this marriage has two insecure, immature and frustrated people trying to solve a "problem". These two people don't need "couples advice" and they don't need to "save" anything.

In the video, I talk about the higher level of awareness, understanding and connection that is available to both of them.

And I explain why this is personal work first...not couples work.

It's not about "communicating" better.

It's about learning what each other needs to truly feel connected.

And it's about learning how to BE the kind of partner who knows how to create that.

Is There Anything Worth Saving In Your Marriage Or Should You Cut Your Losses Now?

Insecurity is the #1 Human Emotional Disease

~ George Pransky, The Relationship Handbook

Nobody wants to be accused of being "insecure". But decades of relationship research has shown that insecurity is at the root of all of our destructive thoughts, words and actions in marriage.

When two insecure people get divorced, they end up attracting the exact partner and relationship they left. Don't do that.

Why not use your current marriage as a GIFT and a "training ground" to become more secure. Only truly secure, mature partners can:

Have empathy and understanding of their partner.

Give unconditional love and high regard even in the tough times.

Understand that everything you think and feel isn't actually true!

Have calm, quiet confidence...even when you think there's a tiger in the room.

Connect at every level of intimacy with an open heart and without fear of being vulnerable.

If you're a woman reading this, here is the website I suggested in the video. It's time to learn stuff your mom and a thousand Youtube and Instagram influencers don't understand about men.

https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/

I have men read Alison Armstrong's book, The Queen's Code, just to see what a secure, smart wife looks like.

If you're a man reading this, then you're in the right place.

Men have to learn this stuff from other men.

Your dad did the best he could for you with what he knew.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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