How To Stop Freaking Out When You Think Your Wife Is Having An Affair

Published: Wed, 12/31/25

Updated: Wed, 12/31/25

Hey brother,

Is your gut telling you that something is up?

You feel a constant nausea caused by the twisted, aching knot in your stomach telling you to be fearful and suspicious.

You feel betrayed - at least deceived.

You don't know whether to confront her with indignant anger or to curl up in a corner and slowly die.

A little dramatic some might say?

Not if you've been there. It's hell on earth.

The angst and the constant questions keep you awake.

What can I say or do?
Who is she texting?
Why is she sleeping on the couch again?
Why is she so happy with everyone but me?
I wonder if should hack into her phone and Facebook account?
Is that wrong? What if I get caught?
Why won't she even look at me?
Where is she really going this weekend?
What can I do to make her like me again!?
What if I screw up and push her farther away?

The biggest question is usually, "If she is willing to cheat what does that mean about me!?"

I have some unconventional and straight-forward advice for you on this.

There's only one good way through this time in your life and it will require strength, clarity and courage.

I explain more in this video. Warning: I get a little worked up here.

How To Stop Freaking Out When You Think Your Wife Is Having An Affair

Whether you wife is engaged in or is thinking about having an affair, how you choose to handle this moment in your relationship is critical for how you will come out of this situation

Part of my coaching process with you is to teach you the concept of absolute transparency. Unapologetic openness. Some have called it radical honesty.

It's the critical life skill of growing up and no longer hiding behind fears and playing games with our feelings like we did when we were kids.

Radical honesty is the most LIBERATING way for a man to live his life in every respect.

It's where courage and confidence grow rapidly.

It's where your mojo lives.

This is nearly impossible to achieve on your own.

Many try and many fail.

You need the support, encouragement and mentoring of men who have already achieved this.

And you probably need someone who BELIEVES in you more now than you may believe in yourself.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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