How To Have A Healthy Swagger And Feel More Self Confident

Published: Mon, 12/29/25

Updated: Mon, 12/29/25

Hey brother,

There's something weird that happens when you do this men's personal development work.

Your wife will pretend not to notice a damn thing about your changes. And she may even push up AGAINST your positive changes as if she is trying to test them.

You see, when a man begins to make major changes in his perspective, his internal energy and his responses to her resistance, she WILL notice.

She just doesn't trust you...yet!

In fact, even while she is secretly hopeful and slightly attracted to your changes...she feels a bit threatened by them too.

She may think, What's he up to? Why now? What's he trying to get ME to do? I'm not sure I believe it. Is this really real? Maybe he's got a girlfriend!

And here's another secret.

She will not give an inch on these suspicions until she is absolutely sure that you're not seeking her attention, validation or approval for these changes.

What does this mean for you?

It means you simply have to detach from any and all outcomes you may be hoping for as you do this work.

You must do the work only for you and for no other reason.

You must find your own lane in which you can maintain a high degree of inner peace and security.

Your energy must be light-hearted and positive.

Your happiness is natural and unattached to external sources.

Only then will she muster the courage to tell you, You've changed...and I like it!

And here is the 9-word response I recommend in that moment.

"Yeah, I like it too. Wanna cup of coffee?"

This is just the beginning of a long, upward spiral back to reconnection with her.

She doesn't want or need an explanation. Even if she acts like she wants you to explain, she would rather experience the change than hear you talk about it.

The fact is that we talk too much most of the time. Talk is cheap.

Our words and professions of love and devotion ring hollow when our behavior has been showing the opposite.

Therefore, simply say, Me too.

I made my Annual Hummingbird Video for you below to offer you some encouragement in your new way of being.

Usually, a "hummingbird husband" is something I describe with a negative connotation (see my old video on this).

In today's newsletter, I want you to think about the GOOD ENERGY of a "Passionate Hummingbird".

What's a "Passionate Hummingbird"?

My little friends and I explain it more in this short video.

How To Have A Healthy Swagger And Feel More Self Confident

The Passionate Hummingbird

The Passionate Hummingbird is very different from the anxious little fella I normally talk about.

This guy is amped up on his life, not sugar water.

He is beginning to see how he can CREATE HIS OWN POSITIVE ENVIRONMENT when he stops trying to fix, influence and change everyone around him.

The unhappiness of others doesn't make him spiral down into unhappiness. Instead, he unapologetically SHARES HIS HAPPINESS WITH THEM.

He is in a HIGH MOOD and high level of positive thinking. He feels valuable and lovable in his own skin without yearning for her approval and affirmation.

His light-hearted perspective and his mature, almost spiritual, way of approaching his relationship triggers is INSPIRING to her.

He used to be the negative hummingbird. The annoying, pestering, controlling one.

And now he knows the only path forward is in this frame of mind. Only good things can happen to a guy in this frame of mind.

There is a process for achieving this state of mind

The Goodguys2Greatmen process is time tested by hundreds of men exactly like you.

We are all hanging out in this community working everyday to support and encourage each other along the way.

This work is personal to me. I've still got a lot to learn over my next 10 years and I want you to join me in the journey.

We can't guarantee you'll get everything you think you want, but we DO guarantee you'll get everything you need to make the next 10 years of your life more amazing than you ever dreamed.

Bold promise? Yeah. We watch men make this change every day and it never gets boring.

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What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

You will finally be listened to and taken seriously
You will get at least ONE serious insight or realization that clears your thinking
You will get at least ONE clear thing to do differently immediately after the call
You will feel at least 50% better and more confident in 60 minutes than you've felt for the last 60 days.
You will feel courage to take the next steps forward to keep your positive momentum

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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