A Common Mistake Men Make In The Bedroom That Guarantees She'll Want Less Sex

Published: Sun, 12/28/25

Updated: Sun, 12/28/25

Hey brother,

I know you opened this email out of curiosity. And I'm going to deliver on my promise.

There is a word being used in the self-help world these days that is so ubiquitous we almost roll our eyes and ignore it.

It's the word PRESENCE. As in:

* Be present

* Give the gift of your presence

* Your presence is all that matters

* Be present by being more "interested" rather than more "interesting"

* yada, yada, yada...

So when a woman emailed me to complain that her husband is NEVER PRESENT with her, I took a breath wondering if she would explain exactly what she meant.

I wondered if should could articulate clearly and specifically what he was or wasn't doing and what she wanted instead.

I wanted to know what it would FEEL like if her husband was truly PRESENT with her and why was it so connected to her ability to feel desire and attraction toward him?

In this video I'll tell you what I learned. And it was kind of shocking.

A Common Mistake Men Make In The Bedroom That Guarantees She'll Want Less Sex

The Most Shocking Bedroom Complaint I've Ever Heard

If you didn't already watch the video...here it is.

About having sex with her husband, she said:

"I honestly believe if I could detach my breasts and my vagina and leave them in the bed with him...and then go get a cup of coffee and read a book...he would never know I left the room."

In the video I go much deeper into how this happens to us guys in many situations.

We have a predisposition to FOCUS ONLY ON THE PHYSICALITY of things.

Many of us are wired to focus on the physical (and anatomical) components of sexuality. Our attention is laser locked onto the pleasure and performance aspects.

And, yes, we can get so delirious in the pursuit of pleasing her pussy we might forget there is a heart, mind and spirit attached.

So there it is.

What are you supposed to do with this information?

I could tell you, "Hey man, just be more PRESENT!"

And it won't mean anything to you. It's useless coaching advice.

It's not just a simple matter of paying better attention and it's a waste of time to start pretending you get it. She'll know you're faking it.

Learning to be truly present requires a man to become in charge of his thinking, his unconscious habits and his sexual insecurities.

An inability to be truly present with her is an inability to be generous with your time and attention.

And a man who cannot manage to be generous with his time and attention is battling issues with his confidence, self-respect and sense of masculine security.

There.

I told you there would be a much deeper message.

If you've been around the Goodguys2Greatmen community very long you know it's the same message in most of what we talk about.

There is NO BETTER FEELING than being a man who feels a deep sense of confidence, self-respect and innner peace...no matter in what circumstances he may find himself.

And that guy is more naturally present with everyone because he is more interested in giving his attention than trying to get attention.

How's that sound?

We've built a mission and a worldwide community around this very goal.

We created a very clear, deliberate and shockingly effective process to help men move from being just a "good guy" to achieving "great man" status.

And when you ask for a free, deep-dive consultation call that is exactly where we start.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

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Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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