How To Deal With Other People's Unreasonable Emotions

Published: Thu, 12/18/25

Updated: Thu, 12/18/25

Hey brother,

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A Risk Worth Taking? Does it pass this test?

1) Do you know if you can survive failing?

2) Would success possibly change your whole life

If it's really that simple, WHY do we avoid risk so often?

What are the current "risky" choices/decisions you have in front of you right now?

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Now onto today's newsletter...

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It happens all the time, doesn’t it?

Sometimes it comes with a tone of sarcasm or blame in her voice.

Other times she will be mean or disrespectful to you. Even worse, she may attempt to belittle you or emasculate you.

Whatever actually is being said or done, you feel “triggered”. It like a switch that goes from “I’m okay” to “I’m totally NOT okay”.

When your woman (or any person for that matter) says or does something that triggers you into anger and defensiveness you feel powerless.

The switch has been thrown and your only option is to follow through with what she started. Engage. Defend. Argue. And fight to win.

But here’s the truth. There are NEVER any winners when this happens.

Why? Because there is no way either of you can win. Nobody is going to say, “Oh, I guess I’m wrong. How stupid of me?”

And there is no way either of you will wind up feeling more trust, more respect, or more love by the time you’re done. It simply won’t happen.

But YOU have options. You are in total control of the situation if you want to be.

How?

Don’t take the bait.

Don’t react from your emotions.

Learn to think and respond from a no-nonsense place of calm, deliberate compassion.

This means that your response must be confident and caring at the same time. Be confident in that you KNOW this is not going to escalate and be caring for that fact the she is experiencing some serious distress.

Even though you don’t accept responsibility for her distress, you can still calmly stand with her without feeling threatened or attacked.

Sounds easy, right? I know it’s not. It takes time and consistency to practice.

And there is a critically important foundation you must have in place.

I talk more about it in the video below:

How To Deal With Other People's Unreasonable Emotions

That calm, deliberate state that's so hard to find sometimes....that’s called mojo.

When I say mojo, I’m talking about healthy self-respect, confidence, clarity and emotional strength,

We’re not born with any of these things. We don’t acquire them simply by the passage of time.

And we definitely don’t find them just because we grow up and get married. In fact, it’s inside of our committed, intimate relationships where we get triggered most easily. It’s the very best training ground to learn.

Your woman is fully qualified to test you and strengthen you. That’s her job, actually. But she will never be qualified to teach you how to develop your mojo.

This is done with other men who can model it for you. You need men who have been through the initiation and can show you the way.

You need men who can call you out, kick your ass, and give you the masculine love, guidance and support that is missing in your life.

I get it. I’ve been there and totally understand what you are thinking and feeling when you get triggered.

There’s a way though this and on the other side is a hell of a lot of fun. But you have to want it.

If you want it, join me in my one-of-a-kind coaching process that rebuilds mojo in men. It works for any man who is tired of making excuses and is ready to move beyond his current situation.

Together, we will flip a switch for you that permanently changes the way you think about getting triggered by women or anybody in your life.

Finally responding to triggers like the man you want to be brings you a calm peace of mind and keeps your switch in the “I’m okay” position no matter what is going on around you.

If you’re a man ready to take the reins of your mojo and confidence again, below are 4 ways to get started today:

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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