The simple answer is that if you're feeling all those things, you're not ready to make any decision. You haven't learned the "Lesson of Limbo Land" yet.
In the video I acknowledge there are two
distinct options when you're in Limbo Land.
One is to stay and the other is to leave.
With either option, you will FEEL like you're in Limbo Land if you lack clarity. When we lack clarity, we make snap decisions - normally bad ones.
The "Lesson of Limbo Land" is to force you to dive deeper into your personal growth and personal belief system than you've ever imagined going before.
The "Lesson of Limbo Land" is to inflict as much pain as possible so you are forced to master the crucial character traits of self-confidence, self-reliance, self-respect, compassion and true partnership.
It's like Navy SEAL training. Not everyone who enters makes it. But if you do make it, the rest of your life will never be the same.
If you decide to stay, this doesn't mean your only power is to sit and wait to see if something changes. This isn't a decision to be in Limbo.
It's a decision to not even THINK about it as
"Limbo".
The Nature of Change
If you don't deliberately change something, then nothing will change. And, if you decide to consciously change something, then something will change.
There must be an element of faith that positive changes are on the horizon as long as you are making positive changes within yourself.
Guys who can't believe that will sit and defend and justify their current approach to Limbo Land - and then experience
the blaring lack of change.
We must know what we need to change and how we need to change in order to begin seeing things around us change.
Most of us have tried talking, reasoning, debating, arguing and pleading only to make
matters worse.
Why?
Because those are not changes! They are more of the same of crap you've doing for years
Changes in What You're Doing
For example, you can choose to totally stop expecting her to change and stop arguing about stupid
stuff and shift your attention to things that interest you, amuse you or fulfill you.
Changes in How You're Doing It
The manner is which you do that must include a detachment from validation, approval or feedback from her. Making changes with a firm focus on outcome independence is HOW you must do what you're doing.
Changes in Who You're Are BEING While You're Doing It
And while you are staying in your lane and focusing on outcome
independence, you must BE more emotionally grounded, clear minded and aware of your thinking. This way of BEING requires you to not react to every damn thing you THINK or FEEL. You must BE the kind of man who understands that your thoughts are mostly lies. Being vigilant about this fact helps you BE more calm, confident and consistent.
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That got little deep, didn't it?
Some guys can read a short email like this and watch a few videos and find their way out of their self-imposed Limbo Land.
Most of us can't.
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