When You Start Feeling More Confident Don't Make This Mistake

Published: Thu, 12/04/25

Updated: Thu, 12/04/25

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call today, Thursday 4th December at 12pm mountain time.

The topic of the call is:

How to Know if a "Gray Divorce" is in Your Future?

We'll be discussing:

What's really going on with the increase in "late in life" divorces?

Are women to blame for the whole cultural change? Why does it seem easy for them?

Are there "new rules" for keeping a marriage happy and healthy...or do they even matter?

What would it take for YOU consider ending a relationship? (your non-negotiables)

Are connection, emotional safety, vulnerability, leadership and variety still important?

How do you handle the FEAR of getting into a new relationship if you can't count on anything anymore??

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching Community here.
(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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I want to warn you about something, it can happen to any of us when we get the first glimpse of the elusive thing we call MOJO.

When you take the leap of commitment into this work of learning (re-learning) the source of your masculine strength and confidence, you feel REAL CHANGES in your belief in yourself. You get super clear, like never before, on what you want from yourself, from your life and from your relationship.

You feel stronger than ever before.

You feel bold and courageous.

Sometimes for the first time ever.

It's not an aggressive strength. It comes from a place of vulnerability, honesty, empathy and compassion you haven't allowed to surface before.

And this is where you may make the big mistake.

Excitement and urgency fills your veins. You want the world to see the emerging new you. You want to talk about it and patch up old hurts and mistakes...quickly.

You want your woman to feel your changes like you do and you want her to acknowledge them. You feel like you're finally on the right track and you want her to join you.

Slow down, brother. Breathe. Relax.

You've only reached the "launching point" of your new mojo. It's powerful and it's tempting to go full throttle.

But you're not ready for that yet. Neither is she.

You need to settle into it and practice. Walk before you run.

Spend time with the men and sharpen your understanding and application of your new power. Make it real for you and be consistent.

Your question may be, "How long will it be before I start seeing changes in her and my relationship?"

Nobody knows the answer to that right now.

You must trust that you are on the right path and no matter what happens, you've found the most important key to your happiness and well being. And this is your mojo.

Your good will come. Promise.

I explain more in this video:

When You Start Feeling More Confident Don't Make This Mistake

A calm and confident man is also a patient man - he knows he's on the path to creating the life he truly wants so he can relax and slow down.

Patience at this time is excruciating and there’s no guarantee she will change anytime soon – if at all.

I know. It’s like being crushed by your own car and having the paramedic say, “Sir, I need you to stay calm.” You know he’s probably right, but he doesn’t have a freaking car sitting on his chest.

You need to breathe, get a grip and stay focused here.

The Best Thing You Can Do Isn’t “Doing” Anything

...It’s “Being”

This is not going to be easy.

You’re going to have to take a leap of faith that I know what I’m talking about.

The best gift you can give to yourself and her right now is a consistent energy of calm confidence.

You don’t need to physically do anything.

All you need to be is unshaken, cool headed and compassionate.

You need to be focused on how you are thinking about this.

Don't let her emotions dictate your emotions. Nothing good happens when you do that.

Your focus needs to be firmly planted on you right now.

Allow your pulse and breathing to slow. Then it will be possible for her to feel your energy change.

This is a key part of your mojo transformation that will change all of your relationships.

When you can slow down and SHOW your direction consistently through actions, she can start to trust your clear, calm, confident strength again.

From my experience, this is often the only thing she really needs from you at this very moment.

Patience brother.

I help guys through this process all day every day and I'd love to help you too.

$149 One-Time Payment: The Goodguy2Greatmen 3-Step Emergency Triage for You AND Your Marriage - if you need an instant change in your life and relationship Dan and I created our most powerful short course to help you start feeling more calm and confident and to know what actions to take to start changing your circumstances.

Free Call: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

You will finally be listened to and taken seriously
You will get at least ONE serious insight or realization that clears your thinking
You will get at least ONE clear thing to do differently immediately after the call
You will feel at least 50% better and more confident in 60 minutes than you've felt for the last 60 days.
You will feel courage to take the next steps forward to keep your positive momentum

Free Guide: Where You Should Focus To Grow Your Masculinity

$497 One-Time Payment: How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a self-paced course with me, Tim Wade, and a community of men learning how to lead when you've just heard, "I love you but I'm not in love with you" or "I want to separate or divorce."

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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