How To Deal With The Fear Anxiety And Worry When Your Marriage Is Struggling

Published: Fri, 11/14/25

Updated: Fri, 11/14/25

Hey brother,

Fear feels like your legs can't move and something is on your heels about to kill you.

It's a drug that makes you feel powerless to fix the crumbling chaos in front of you.

And fear can feel like the bone crushing pressure of never measuring up...never being good enough...and being an absolute failure who is too damn weak to save his family, marriage or even himself.

When your brain is on the drug called fear you feel murky, wishy-washy, uncertain and powerless.

And guess what?

You're not alone. Even men who, on the outside, look like they are crushing life have tremendous battles with fearful thoughts, emotions and stupid over-reactions.

Sometimes a picture is worth a 1000 words. I could try to type those up for you but I'm going to stop and ask you to watch this video for a crystal clear explanation of fear and HOW TO GET YOUR MOJO BACK.

The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear, and the oldest and strongest kind of fear is fear of the unknown. ~ H. P. Lovecraft

The people who fear the unknown the most are those who believe they should be able to CONTROL the unknown.

Control the unknown? Yeah, say it a few more times. It's actually funny. And it's incredibly common in fearful people. They try to control people, circumstances and outcomes. Every scary thought they have is a new opportunity to impose their control over something.

But here's the kicker. You will NEVER have control over the fearful thoughts and stories that enter your brain.

You DO have control over your responses. You DO have control over how you THINK ABOUT YOUR FEARFUL THOUGHTS. And while you can seldom create the exact outcome you prefer, you will ALWAYS be able to learn and course-correct along the way.

Hope not for a specific outcome. I want you to learn to hope that you will learn, grow and things will eventually make sense. Clarity is available to you when you learn how to clear your thinking and operate independently from outcomes.

I want you to believe that all along the way, your sense of peace and well-being is guaranteed as long as you don't tie your well-being to outcomes you don't control.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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