How To Stop Feeling Like Your Life Is Pointless

Published: Wed, 11/12/25

Updated: Wed, 11/12/25

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call this Thursday 13th November at 12pm mountain time.

The topic of the call is:

How to Stoke Your Own Fire Even When She's Stone Cold

Why does our fire inside die when our partner has gone cold?

What's the best way to STOKE your own embers and passion for life?

How do you patiently and kindly invite her to join you?

Do ever ask yourself "What's the point?!" Why is that?

What would change all around you if you could maintain an "steady burn" of passion for life...even if others don't get you?

This is CRUCIAL for your sense of peace, well-being and connection to a brighter story of the future.

No man can survive with an attachment to someone else's approval for him to be able to experience life to the fullest.

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching Community here.
(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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You may be old enough to remember Bob Newhart.

He was a comedian in the 70's and 80's and had a show where he played a psychiatrist. And when a lady comes into his office and says she is horribly afraid of being buried alive in a box...his only advice is to:

STOP IT!! (you can watch it here if you want)

He doesn't want to hear about her traumatic childhood, her scary dreams or her astrological sign. He just says, "STOP IT"...for a $5 fee.

While it's not top notch psychotherapy, it's funny as hell.

And I think there is some deep wisdom in the notion we actually have the ability to STOP thinking ourselves into fearful stories, fearful thoughts and fearful words and action.

We often coach men to simply STOP certain things.

Stop arguing
Stop defending yourself all the time
Stop apologizing for everything
Stop finding blame
Stop talking when words aren't needed
Stop assuming the worst

Those are great starting points you can start STOPPING today and you will see nearly instantaneous results.

Here's another thing we teach you how to stop.

It's that annoying narrative in your head. It's the silly, non-stop story of doom you create over and over again. It's that cruel voice that convinces you that you're somehow broken and just might live the rest of your life alone.

Bullshit . That's not true. And it's not going to happen. Period.

So STOP IT!

I made this video for you to explain this a little more.

How To Stop Feeling Like Your Life Is Pointless

Now That You've Stopped...What Should You Start?

The problem with stopping something is you can't let it go without knowing what will take its place.

One big benefit to having self-destructive thoughts is that we get to avoid the responsibility of creating new ones.

That's the value of having an older, wiser man in your corner.

We know all about the shit show in your head.

We know all about the story of the future that's got you waking up at 3:30am every single day.

We know about the knot in your stomach and why you've lost 15 pounds in 30 days.

And we know your story so well, we can help you laugh at yourself a bit.

The TRUTH is that things aren't as horrible as they appear.

And the truth is that the notion of "horrible" is entirely made up inside that incredibly CREATIVE head of yours.

Are you ready to use that head to CREATE something new? Something more true and more pleasurable?

Your daily sense of calm, peaceful and confident well-being is yours to create.

And when you do, the problems you're facing with your wife and marriage don't look so scary.

And THAT's when men start seeing real changes.

And if you want to really make quick progress on stopping the things that are sabotaging the future you want, choose an option below so we can help you with that...

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What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

You will finally be listened to and taken seriously
You will get at least ONE serious insight or realization that clears your thinking
You will get at least ONE clear thing to do differently immediately after the call
You will feel at least 50% better and more confident in 60 minutes than you've felt for the last 60 days.
You will feel courage to take the next steps forward to keep your positive momentum

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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