Why Strong Men Lose Confidence in Marriage (and How to Stop It From Happening to You)

Published: Fri, 11/07/25

Updated: Mon, 11/10/25

Hey brother,

"Confidence is not a requirement...it's a result."

What if I told you that every successful man I've ever worked with didn't have a shred of confidence in the beginning of our work together?

Of course, every one of them thought that's what they needed to turn their life around.

Even if they already felt massively confident in their profession or in their social life, they still lamented their LACK OF CONFIDENCE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP.

And they would usually add that their confidence with women in general was always a sore spot in their life.

They have a faulty belief that sounds like this:

"If I was more confident in myself, my sexuality and/or my ability to lead she would LIKE ME AGAIN and all these problems will go away."

That kind of belief will get you nowhere.

Why?

Because wishing for confidence is a losing game.

What we need is more COURAGE.

And with COURAGE to choose the right thoughts, the right words and the right actions...CONFIDENCE will come as natural result.

I made this video to explain what I mean by "courage" in the context of your life and relationship.

Why Strong Men Lose Confidence in Marriage (and How to Stop It From Happening to You)

What Am I Supposed to Be Courageous About?!?!

And THAT is the million dollar question.

Most of us can courageously spell out all the stuff we DON'T WANT.

We can even "courageously" bitch about it, argue about it and stew in anger about it.

That ain't courage. That's just an adolescent over-reaction to feeling powerless to create something new...something better. I know. I'm an expert on that over-reaction thing.

The courage you need is the focus, drive, determination and NON-NEGOTIABLE drive to become someone different.

The moment you become someone different than before, everything outside and around you starts to change too.

And if you can do that with a consistency...even if you're scared...then confidence will begin to creep into your pores...bit by bit.

This includes:

Stopping specific habits and behaviors that are like gasoline on the fire of discontent
Adopting a new, more patient and mature perspective on what's happening and why
Making a stand or declaration in the face of toxic behavior - yours AND hers
Taking better care of your health and fitness without needing to "explain yourself"
Consistently modeling a higher standard of thinking, speaking and interacting...with everyone

The single biggest reason men fail at gaining this courage is because they isolate themselves and try to do it alone.

It just doesn't work that way. You need men. Good men. Smart men. Men who know exactly what you're facing and feeling and who can support you and encourage you to be more courageous.

Here are four ways you can join our community and get started changing things today:

$149 One-Time Payment: The Goodguy2Greatmen 3-Step Emergency Triage for You AND Your Marriage - if you need an instant change in your life and relationship Dan and I created our most powerful short course to help you start feeling more calm and confident and to know what actions to take to start changing your circumstances.

Free Call: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

You will finally be listened to and taken seriously
You will get at least ONE serious insight or realization that clears your thinking
You will get at least ONE clear thing to do differently immediately after the call
You will feel at least 50% better and more confident in 60 minutes than you've felt for the last 60 days.
You will feel courage to take the next steps forward to keep your positive momentum

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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