Confident
men are described in dozens of different ways.
But
nobody ever used these 3 simple, but amazingly powerful, words.
Most
people try to define a confident man using external traits, like the way he outwardly looks, talks and behaves.
Those things are a RESULT of something much deeper within him.
And
because it's easier for most guys to modify their EXTERNAL impression, they tend to avoid the more simple and more permanent internal modifications.
First, a consistently confident man has achieved an internal vibration of CALM.
Outwardly,
other people experience him as emotionally predictable, grounded and trustable. He's safe because he doesn't show the juvenile temper and over-reaction of other men.
Internally,
he has a firm grip on reality and the fact that nothing...I mean nothing is really a threat to him. He sees conflict as mere noise and personal attacks as playground insults.
Second, a consistently confident man is purposely DELIBERATE in his manner, his decisions, his choices, and his
responses.
Outwardly,
other people experience him as wise, patient and reasonable. He's trustable because he isn't influenced by false urgency and isn't prone to knee jerk reactions.
Internally,
he has a firm grip on how HE likes to get things done. He values precision of thinking and process. He knows at his core that "slow is smooth and smooth is fast". He sees false urgency and meaningless deadlines as obstacles to quality results.
Third, a consistently confident man is noticeably PLEASED.
Outwardly,
other people experience him as light-hearted, easily amused and fair-minded. He doesn't take himself too seriously and is able to sit comfortably with others even when they are not so pleased. Again, he is seen as safe, kind and respectful.
Inwardly,
he has a firm grip on the bigger picture. Speed bumps and disagreements don't threaten him or cause him to lose focus on the prize. He knows at his core that his pervasive sense of daily well-being is his secret power. And only he can create that power.
I
made a video for you with Chief to explain what calm, deliberate and pleased means to me.
