How To Stop Divorce Ruining Your Life

Published: Thu, 05/15/25

Updated: Thu, 05/15/25

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our group coaching call TODAY, Thursday 15th May at 12pm mountain time, the topic of the call is "She's Acting Single...and I'm Drinking Doubles" - (that's an old country song, of course)

We are going to dive into the dark thoughts and emotions that happen when your wife or girlfriend is "acting single"

How to think and respond when....

She takes off her wedding ring
She spends a lot more time with girlfriends
She's got a new tattoo or starts smoking
She just "wants space"
She "doesn't know" what she wants for the future

Let's talk about YOU and your thoughts, your values and your ability to TRUST YOURSELF enough to trust HER.

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable here.
(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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A couple of years ago a 125,000 acre wildfire was about 3 miles from burning down my house, barn and the "He Shed/She Shed" you've seen me build.

Yeah, really.

I ended up hanging out 40 miles away in the basement of a friend with my girlfriend in tow along with 2 dogs, 3 cats and 2 horses. I'm glad I have good friends I can lean on for help.

It was also good to have a grocery store 8 minutes away and about 25 pubs just 10 minutes away for the first time in my life. And I could still have my coaching sessions and get other projects done.

If the house burnt down, I had insurance. It would have been a huge pain but it wouldn't have been the end of the world.

You might say, "Damn, you handled that well!" And you would be right.

And so would have you. Am I right?

I bet you typically respond to hardship, difficulty, challenges and unfortunate situations like a WARRIOR. You face it head on - make plans - make stuff happen and plow through. Nothing scares you that much.

Even when things are 100% out of your control, you learn quickly you can RESPOND with clear, decisive action and take the lead. And when you do that you feel better, calmer and more in control of the stuff you can control.

So if us dudes are that good with most of the inconveniences of life, why do we completely lose it when facing rejection or the possibility of divorce?

It's the ONE FRONTIER where a man can feel not only powerless...but entirely incapable of thinking clearly. The threat of failure, abandonment and upheaval of his "master plan" creates paralysis.

He can't respond to anything. Everything feels like an emotional reaction...24/7.

And that's when we normally first hear from him.

Watch this short video about what happens next.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Viktor Frankl wrote about his experience in a Nazi concentration camp.

He was stripped of everything a man could possibly be stripped of.

Even then he came to the most liberating realization that would change the rest of his life and his profession.

It was the realization - and responsibility - that our secret power is to "choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way."

When it comes to the discomfort of being rejected and facing possible divorce, you have the same secret power.

Your inherent sense of security, confidence, happiness and inner strength is a state of mind and being that is ever present. Even when you forget that you must realize it is a CHOICE.

Security, confidence, happiness and inner strength was never meant to come from your wife or your marriage. It's already within you.

We teach men how to FIND THEIR INHERENT VALUE AND CONFIDENCE even in the discomfort of a crumbling relationship.

We help them realize that this choice is a prerequisite to a happy life as a married man or a single man.

And we teach them that the only road to a second chance in their marriage is along the path of becoming a secure, confident, happy, strong man.

This is the road we must find no matter what.

There is no other choice.

If you're ready for deep, caring conversation about getting back on the right path, submit our contact form . Fill it out completely and get as detailed and vulnerable as you dare!

Either I, Dan or one of our certified coaches will reply quickly to set up a free, no strings conversation to help you slow down and refocus on what is really important.

Or here are some other options for you to keep growing and facing the challenges in your life with confidence:

$149 One-Time Payment: The Goodguy2Greatmen 3-Step Emergency Triage for You AND Your Marriage - if you need an instant change in your life and relationship Dan and I created our most powerful short course to help you start feeling more calm and confident and to know what actions to take to start changing your circumstances.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know the fear of divorce ruining your life is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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$497 One-Time Payment: How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a self-paced course with me, Tim Wade, and a community of men learning how to lead when you've just heard, "I love you but I'm not in love with you" or "I want to separate or divorce."

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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