First, I want to invite you to our next group coaching call this Thursday, 7th August at 12pm mountain time.
What Does She REALLY Mean When She Says "We Don't Have a Connection"?
Why
connection has little to do with "communicating"
What does "He's so INTO me!" really mean to her?
Why sexual connection typically requires
emotional connection first
Okay...let's get practical! What are some EXAMPLES?!
Why "connection" to her is more like, "I feel so
seen!"
How to create an energy of "celebrating" her for who she is...and not what you're disappointed about
This is going to be a great
conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!
If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable here.(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).Now onto today's newsletter...
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How
you handle rejection is a key predictor not only of your chances of improving or saving your marriage...it's also a very reliable predictor of how the rest of your life is going to go.
Bold statement I know, but I have many years of data from coaching men just like you in relationships just like yours to back it
up.
I
talked to a man today whose wife has been detached, disinterested, dismissive and disrespectful.
She
wants her space and independence and has pretty much designed a life of her own including weekends and vacations. She thinks he should find his own life too and learn to be happy.
He
said he wanted to stop reacting so badly and learn to respond better to this new dynamic she's created.
"What's
the difference between reacting and responding in this case?" he asked.
I
told him that reactions come from a place of fear and insecurity.
They
almost always sound like questions and veiled threats with a nervous voice. They sound like this:
1.
Why can't you spend more time with me?
2.
What do you get with your friends that you can't get with me?
3.
What do I have to do to get you to like being with me?
4.
If you don't start staying home on weekends, I'm not going to be very happy at all with that!
I
know what it's like to have that nervous, "little boy" energy and it sucks. Just as the words come out of our mouths we're hating who we're being.
And
we know it's a big part of why she doesn't want to hang around.
But
what should a man do instead?
What
does a masculine RESPONSE look like?
How
can you get her attention without feeling like a whiner?
I
explain that in this video.
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Why
your reactions are making things worse
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What
you need most to respond clearly and confidently
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How
a clear, masculine response actually sounds when you are confronting her elusive behavior
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Why
you don't need threats or ultimatums
