Hey,
So you're in your 12th marriage counseling session with your wife and, frankly, things aren't just unchanged...they're WORSE!
Why? Because the overwhelming majority of therapists have been taught how to "solve problems" with couples. They go backwards...into the dark past...dwell on problems, grievances and complaints that are years old.
In other words, most therapists don't TEACH YOU how to see what's right. They don't show you how
your THINKING is the root of all of your negative emotions and projections!
They don't INSPIRE you to confidently CONNECT in positive ways. They too busy trying to make everyone feel "heard and seen".
While that is important, it is NOT the
path to a positive, loving and connected feeling. Which is exactly what BOTH of you want. Right?
Coach Mark gives you something you need for your 13th counseling session. Use this information to ELEVATE YOUR THINKING so you can show up more powerfully and begin asking for the new marriage connection you want...instead of "problem solving" the
old one!
Then, I highly encourage you to join him and coach Garrett Prettyman in the next small group coaching for men who want more! Get on the waiting list now.
Here's Mark.
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My name is Mark Drezga and along with fellow GG2GM
coach, Garrett Prettyman; we developed the Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course to help men become powerful leaders in all aspects of their
lives.
Would you like to know something that changed my life the moment I understood it?
Something that for years I simply refused to even consider...
It's so simple, and yet it holds all the power to bring lasting change.
- It makes connecting more natural and effortless
- It
naturally attracts others to you
- It unburdens you from the responsibly of dealing with other peoples problems and it makes you invincible
You ready?
Get Comfortable With Feeling Uncomfortable
That’s it.
When you can experience
discomfort without needing to do anything about it, you become unstoppable.
You become unstoppable because you no longer have to DO things to avoid uncomfortable feelings.
You can simply have them.
I see you rolling your eyes over there!
It can't be that simple, I hear you say.
But it is.
Let me explain.
How much of your life is an attempt at avoiding uncomfortable feelings?
Do you:
- Argue
with your wife or try to get her to agree with you?
- Let people walk over you, dismiss your ideas or treat you poorly?
- Regularly find yourself doing things that don't interest you or drain you?
- Easily get offended by other peoples words or actions?
In each of these examples, there is a common thread.
It is that most people will lean
towards the more comfortable option.
If speaking our mind means feeling uncomfortable, then we shut-up.
If disagreeing with someone creates tension, then we try to get them to agree with us (or we change our opinion to suit theirs).
In the short-term, this may provide some relief, but do it for long enough and you always end up bitter, resentful and angry.
What Would Change For
You If Feelings Didn't Bother You?
A powerful coaching question you can ask yourself is:
"What would change for me, if I could have ANY feeling, without needing to change it to have a better life?".
Most people would say their lives would improve dramatically if they didn't have the negative feelings they were having.
Others try to numb out to escape them.
Even more people seek out practices and techniques to help make it so they don't have any uncomfortable feelings in the first place.
All of these can work to a
degree, but none actually get to the root of the issue.
It's not the feeling that is the problem.
It's your desire to feel comfortable that brings you suffering.
Your feelings are not the problem.
It's the MEANING you are giving them.
Would you believe that for some people, not knowing what is going to happen next is exhilarating?!
They consider it thrilling to do things on a whim and not have a plan.
They are the ones who can by a ticket to another country and find accommodation once they land.
I know, they're crazy right??
And yet for others, they must plan everything in advance or they
will be overwhelmed by anxiety and stress.
How can this be?
It's simple.
Events, circumstances and situations have no inherent
meaning or feelings in them.
They just are.
How To Resolve The THINKING Problem That Creates Your Suffering
It's how we THINK about ourselves that creates the feelings inside
us.
And it is how we choose to THINK about the feelings that makes them tolerable or intolerable.
This is how two different people can have two VERY different experiences of the same situation.
One finds not knowing what is going to happen fun.
The other finds it stressful.
Neither is more right or wrong than the other - they both have a different relationship to
particular feelings in their bodies.
One enjoys the excitement.
The other avoids the anxiety.
The amazing thing is that you can
change your relationship to your feelings!
Imagine a world where you could have all the terrifying, unpleasant feelings that come with being alive, without needing to change them.
How amazing and liberating would
that be?
Think of all the things that you could do, even if they terrify you?
Garrett and I have been running and refining our course for a number of years now and what sets it apart is our approach to pushing you into your own growth.
The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course has been designed to be a hands-on, supportive and challenging experience by two men that have gone through EXACTLY what you are going through.
This isn't a work-at-your-own-pace video course.
This is a real-time coaching adventure that will push you into scary territory, while giving you an instant support network of other men that will go through it with you.
We know what it's like to feel as though it's too risky to take drastic steps towards a different life.
We also know what it's like to NOT take those steps and
try to keep everything exactly as it is and always has been.
It's time to stop playing small brother!
