How To Turn The Pain From The End Of Your Marriage Into Optimism

Published: Sun, 04/20/25

Updated: Sun, 04/20/25

Hey brother,

Do you ever wonder how we come up with so many different ideas to talk about with you?

It's because we're talking to men around the world 7 days a week. And we go deep!

There is no end to new "Ah-has", "Holy craps" and what I like to call "Lightbulb Moments". And, the 2x4 of clarity is a good one too.

Here's one from this week.

It came from a man who has been through the wringer in a tough separation and divorce. He's faced the typical battles of sleeplessness, weight loss, guilt, shame, an angry wife...and a kid that won't talk to you.

We've been working together since April and this week he told me his Lightbulb Moment.

It may not seem like a huge deal to you. Or you may be in a place where you're just not ready to hear it. But here it is.

When you're in your stinkin' thinkin'...there is no future.

Boom!

Like most of us, he was having trouble imagining ANY kind of positive future.

All he could see was darkness. No light. No fun. No laughter. No peace. No relationships. No joy.

And his incredibly clear, powerful and SIMPLE realization was that he had "thought" himself into a reality that wasn't even true.

Let me explain this a little more clearly in the video. This is important stuff.

How To Turn The Pain From The End Of Your Marriage Into Optimism

Whatever you decide to think...you get to be right!

Many guys going through divorce stay stuck in stinkin' thinkin' for a long time. Do any of these sound familiar?

This is horrible.
I feel devastated.
How could she?
My life is going to suck!
Women can't be trusted!
I feel like such a failure.

If this is what you constantly think...then you'll trick yourself into BELIEVING it's all true.

And...you get to be right. Do you WANT to be right about that?

But, what if you're believing something that isn't even true?

Even if you THINK it's true...what if it's not?

What if you decided to believe in something else?

What if you could get your mojo back and remember who you really are?

What if you had a 2x4 to the head moment of realizing that somewhere in this shit show is a gift you never saw?

Sometimes, all you need to start thinking differently is a powerful conversation with someone who has been in your shoes.

Believe it or not, we find it incredibly enjoyable. Why?

Because sitting with you when your lightbulbs start coming on is the most satisfying experience in the world!

If you're ready for something a little more intense and personal , we have been where you are brother and we have options to help guide you toward a better future...

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We know facing the possible ending of your marriage is serious
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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