First, I
want to invite you to our group coaching call this Thursday 17th April at 12pm mountain time, the topic of the call is "What Are You Afraid For Others to Know About You?"
This discussion is about why we hide the truth and seek to protect ourselves from scrutiny from others.
What would be TOO horrible or dangerous to be shown on the front page of the paper tomorrow morning?
When is confidentiality important and when are we unnecessarily clutching to privacy/anonymity?
When is it appropriate to protect others from possible hurt or harm?
How does hiding the truth sabotage us from getting what we really want?
Exercise: "Tell me something you REALLY don't want me to know about you."
This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!
If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable here.(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).Now onto today's newsletter...
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This email is about the all-too-common condition some therapists call "The Walk Away Wife Syndrome".
Among other common traits of this syndrome is the two-year advance planning period many wives spend in anticipation of the end of their marriage.
Don't get me wrong.
It's seldom a detailed plan. Seldom premeditated.
In the beginning it's more of a feeling...an emotional knowing that her marriage cannot continue any longer the way it is. It's a heavy sadness. So heavy, in fact, she can't muster the strength to talk about it or reveal the growing truth in her heart.
And this is where most of say "bullshit!". "Why couldn't she have told me she was feeling this way?!"
The reason is simple. In her own way she thinks she said volumes. In ways you may have missed, but the only ways she knew to tell you.
We give guys clues that may help, like:
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She's constantly detached, disinterested, unresponsive and endlessly distracted by everything and everyone but
you
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She's consumed with social media at all hours of the day and night and she has time only for friends, co-workers and people you've never
met
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She's suddenly aggressive and disrespectful at every request you make to "talk about it"
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She's adopted strange new habits like smoking, excessive drinking, staying out all night or getting
tattoos
If
you've seen any of those signs you're probably feeling all kinds of anxiety, loss of appetite and sleep. Brother, you're among men who ALL know what that feels like.
It's
impossible in one email to give you enough helpful information to change things overnight. The first phase of the "Walk Away Wife Syndrome" is complex and it's important to not over-react.
Most
of us will over-analyze, over-think and over-talk. None of those will work.
In
this video, I talk about a free PDF we created to help you start THINKING correctly. Below the video I will give you a link to download this document to give you some immediate guidance on what may be going on in your
marriage.
