This email from coach Garrett Prettyman is a powerful reminder about how men can sit and watch their future unfold or...become an active, deliberate force in their future.
It's an important distinction and one I wish I had learned a bit earlier in life! Enjoy the email and note the deadline is today for saving your spot in the course.
I HIGHLY recommend you consider saving your spot now for the small group format
course he is running soon with Coach Mark Drezga. It's a life-changer for sure.
Here's Garrett.
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You're about to discover that you have a
choice to make if your wife is doubting her love for you. I assure you—becoming the kind of man who confidently creates the loving, amazing future he desires is achievable.
Now, back to our regularly scheduled program…
She Said, "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You”
"Oh, to be
young and free—when love came easily. She was a girl, you were a boy, and the rest became history."
I just made that quote up.
But it speaks to something
real.
In the beginning, love felt effortless.
A glance from across the room, the lingering scent of her perfume, or seeing her handwriting on a note—it was
intoxicating.
Simply being in the same room together was
enough.
Fast forward a decade or two…
Now, you find yourselves arguing over how to squeeze the toothpaste, with resentments that smolder for weeks.
We get too comfortable, letting our worst selves show in ways we never would with friends or coworkers.
And often, we’re blissfully ignorant of how this creates
disconnection.
Sex may have been enough to keep you feeling good about the marriage, but for her—she’s been running on fumes.
That’s why when we
first hear the words "I love you, but I’m not in love with you", it blindsides us.
For years, we’ve dismissed her feelings as irrational—so we don’t grasp the magnitude of what she’s saying.
Until one day, divorce papers hit the table.
Then, like a splash of cold water to the face, we finally understand.
The Crystal Ball Never
Lies
If your wife is struggling to feel affectionate or "in love" with you, you have two possible futures.
And thanks to the unalterable principles of life, we can predict them with
certainty—as if we had a magic crystal ball.
1️⃣ Your Default Future
Your default future is the one that happens automatically if you keep doing what you’ve always done.
Life is a mirror—it reflects back who we are.
If you don’t like the reflection, changing the mirror won’t help.
If you think changing her will fix everything, you’re like a dog barking at its own shadow.
Your default future is a repeat of your past—because the same behaviors will produce the same results.
🚫 Keep explaining yourself when she brings up the past—if you want her to never trust you again.
🚫 Get angry at her emotions—if you want her to feel unsafe with you.
🚫 Withdraw, pout, or complain when she turns down sex—if you want to guarantee she stops initiating.
🚫 Compare her to her mother or demand she “get it together”—if you want her desire for you to vanish into thin air.
Want to make sure your default future arrives on time?
✔️ Avoid conflict.
✔️ Measure your worth by her
orgasms.
✔️Expect love and respect just because of all you’ve sacrificed.
But wait! The crystal ball shows a second future…
2️⃣ Your Chosen Future
Your second future isn’t default—it’s deliberate.
It’s what happens when you stop trying to change your
circumstances and start changing yourself.
And with 100% certainty, we know this:
- Love
- Affection
- Admiration
- Support from an amazing woman
WILL happen—for the man who stays in his frame and gives his gifts without strings.
But here’s the paradox…
If you become obsessed with making ONE specific woman love you again, you’ll repel the love you want.
The crystal ball never lies.
If you want your wife to love you again, you must CHOOSE to become the kind of man who thrives—even if she never loves you again.
How to Be the Kind of Man Who Gets Love & Affection
Being masculine is the ONLY way to attract the soft, feminine side of women.
But culture has lied to men about
masculinity.
It tells you it’s about money, sports, or big trucks.
But true masculinity? It’s INTERNAL.
✅ How you THINK.
✅ How you BEHAVE.
✅ What you BELIEVE.
Are You Ready To Take Action?
We’re looking for 8 men who are serious about gaining rock-solid self-confidence and stepping into true masculine leadership in their relationships.
👉 And TODAY is the ONLY day you can pay to save your spot!
📅 Course sessions will run at 5:00 PM
Pacific on:
✔️ April 12th
✔️ April 26th
✔️ May 10th
✔️ May 24th
💥 Bonus Segment: "What to do if you suspect your wife is having an emotional affair".
This brand-new segment is for men who suspect
their wife might be emotionally involved with another man.
We know emotional (and physical) affairs can damage trust.
You’ll get clear guidance on how to rebuild trust and heal—whether your suspicions are true or
not.
We’ll see you on the other side, brother,
Garrett
Prettyman & Mark Drezga
Associate coaches at GG2GM
