This email from coach Mark Drezga breaks down one of the most insidious problems with male confidence.
I've made videos about "being a man with a plan" and "knowing who you are and what you want".
This email dives deeper into some of the causes and unfortunate side effects of "waffling" as a man. We can do better, brother. We MUST!
And if you REALLY want to become a clear-headed, focused man with a plan, I HIGHLY recommend you consider getting on the April waiting list for the small group format course he and coach Garrett Prettyman are hosting soon. It's a life-changer for sure.
Here's
Mark.
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My name is Mark Drezga and along with fellow GG2GM coach, Garrett Prettyman; we developed the Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course to help men become powerful leaders in all aspects of their lives.
Do you know what it's like to live your life to the fullest?
How about what it's like to push your edge?
Do you constantly have a feeling that you are "holding back"?
Or are you like most guys and
just keep your head down and nose to the grindstone?
Well, you're in good company!
Most guys we meet are not living to capacity.
They are not even close.
And most of these guys are painfully aware of it.
This is the main reason why
they are miserable.
It's not their wives pulling away from the marriage and it's not a lack of sex or affection.
It's the festering sensation of time being wasted and not doing anything to make use of
it.
The pain shows up in different ways depending on how long you've been hiding it.
- General disinterest
- Lack of motivation
- A hollow feeling deep in your gut
- Apathy and irritability
- No sense of humor
- Lack of respect from everybody
- People don’t even know if you're in the room
Sometimes men can't quite put their finger on it or even verbalize the disappointment they are
experiencing; but we can see it, and you can be sure their partners can!
When you dwell in this place, it's easy to look out and find reasons to not do the things that you want to.
You
can even convince yourself that you have no wants, needs or gifts to share.
And you can blame others for how you are feeling and make excuses to justify your inaction.
It's very
disempowering.
There is actually a word that encapsulates this feeling perfectly.
"Ennui"
noun
A feeling of listlessness and dissatisfaction arising from a lack of occupation or excitement. "He succumbed to ennui and despair."
When a man holds back from unleashing ALL of himself onto the world, the world suffers.
For whatever reason, men often fall into the trap
of giving up on themselves for the sake of everybody else.
Maybe it's in our nature and has something to do with how we are often raised to martyr ourselves.
Or maybe it's just the way
it is for some of us.
Either way - holding back is NOT the way to get what you want in life.
Men who own their gifts are
rare.
Men who share those gifts freely, are fucking leprechauns.
If you treat life as a game with winner and losers, then you seek to maintain an advantage
over the other players.
You keep score (who does what housework and how much).
You treat people like children by rewarding and penalizing certain behaviors to try and get more of what
you want.
And you let others decide if you have done well or not.
This is why most guys end up walking on egg-shells around their wives.
They're soo afraid of making a mistake that they just shut up and hope the pressure will abate.
When their wives up at ante and begin to push harder and get more frustrated, the guys retreat further into themselves and just want a
break from everything.
That "break" can look like a divorce or new wife.
For them, having their wives STOP nagging is a gift.
Show me a unhappy man and he's surely playing small in life.
Show me a generous man and he has no limits.
Playing small leaves you rotting on the inside and your unused potential becomes compulsive behaviors.
Those behaviors are always destructive and
damaging and if you do it long enough, you'll end up like the guys that keep wanting to go back to the "good-old days".
The antidote to this malaise is ACTION.
But not just any action.
It has to be clear, focused and deliberate action that can sometimes seem counter-intuitive.
This is where Garrett and I will guide you.
You must be able to recognize your own limited thinking or at least connect to other men that can help you with it.
Garrett and I have been running and refining our course for several years now and what sets it apart is our approach to pushing you into your own growth.
The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course has been designed to be a hands-on, supportive and challenging experience by two men who have gone through EXACTLY what you are going through.
This isn't a
work-at-your-own-pace video course.
This is a real-time coaching adventure that will push you into scary territory, while giving you an instant support network of other men that will go through it with you.
We know what it's
like to feel as though it's too risky to take drastic steps towards a different life.
We also know what it's like to NOT take those steps and try to keep everything exactly as it is and always has been.
It's time to stop playing small
brother!
This is an amazing group of men learning how to have a strong masculine frame.
Once you're on the list, we’ll send you a 10% early-bird coupon code. Registration opens for 24 HOURS ONLY on April 5th!
📅 Course sessions will run at 5:00 PM
Pacific on:
✔️ April 12th
✔️ April 26th
✔️ May 10th
✔️ May 24th
💥 Bonus Segment:
"What to do if you suspect your wife is having an emotional
affair".
This brand-new segment is for men who suspect their wife might be emotionally involved with another man.
We know emotional (and physical)
affairs can damage trust.
You’ll get clear guidance on how to rebuild trust and heal—whether your suspicions are true or not.
Click HERE to get on the waiting list so you don’t miss
out.
Be grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman & Mark Drezga
Associate coaches at
GG2GM