How To Stop Your Feelings Ruining Your Relationship

Published: Thu, 03/27/25

Updated: Fri, 03/28/25

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our group coaching call today, Thursday 27th March at 12pm mountain time, the topic of the call is ""Living in "Lover Energy" Even When She's Not Having It!".

Read the summary of the book Open Her by Karen Brody in the link below and see if any of the descriptions of different types of Masculine energy interest you (be sure to read all the way through to the lover energy section):
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JRHB4mzY2CNXE1kVKmdDciNEJTc_7Ftc/view?usp=sharing

Here are some of our discussion points:

Why "lover energy" is more honest than what you've been doing
What IS lover energy anyway...and who is it for?
How can you express your desire when she's not interested?
How can you give "lover energy" when there's no reciprocation?
Confronting every man's secret about sexual confidence and value

This is going to be a great conversation! If you're looking for a new mindset to keep moving forward, you'll love this Roundtable session!

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable here.
(You'll also gain access to 6 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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I'm not really interested in your "feelings".

Yeah, I know being a man is tough. Being in a relationship is tough.

But all of it is tougher when you're being yanked around by your feelings on a daily basis.

Part of being a mature, confident and clear headed man is knowing that while your "feelings" are normal and healthy, they are NOT your reality.

Becoming a master of your emotional world demands that you change your relationship with your "feelings". This means you're going to have to change your relationship with your "thoughts".

Here's the problem.

Most insecure, nervous and unhappy people have a habit of "living the feeling of their thinking".

What's that mean?

It's means they allow their random thoughts, beliefs and projections to drive an endless parade of negative emotions.

They feel like they are a passenger in a roller coaster of "feeling" and have no particular agency or responsibility for changing the thinking at the root of their constant anxious, angry and/or unhappy reactions to life.

Is this you? Who else do you know who might be living this reality?

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I know. This may sound strange to you.

But this wisdom is thousands of years old!

The most confident, calm, wise, clear headed and HAPPY people in the world are those who have come to terms with their own ability - and responsibility - for changing the WAY THEY THINK about the cards they are dealt every day.

This is why I don't really want to "talk about your feelings".

I want to talk about your THINKING!

So I will...in this video.

Here's something NEW to think which I guarantee will change the way you feel.

How To Stop Your Feelings Ruining Your Relationship

"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another."
~ Sir William Jones

We have dozens of complimentary consultations every month with men who have been afraid of what they are FEELING.

They use words like lonely, scared, rejected, dismissed, ignored, replaced, inadequate, frustrated, uncertain and confused.

We will spend one to two hours speaking with you to help you immediately relax and focus. We demonstrate the power of having a wise mentor in your corner to challenge your emotional roller coaster and to teach you how to do a better job of thinking about your thinking.

This is our favorite reaction.

"Dude, I just got more out of this call than I've gotten from 3 years of freakin' therapy!! Why isn't anyone telling men this stuff?!"

What stuff?

1. We talk about what's really happening with your marriage, wife and sex life.

2. We tell you things about being a man your father never told you...and how you've been avoiding the most powerful part of being a man.

3. We take you through an exercise to experience the thrill of changing your perspective and HOW YOU'RE THINKING at this very moment.

That's when you immediately FEEL something different than just an hour earlier.

Yeah. I know. Sounds crazy. I love this stuff and it's why I can't stop writing and talking about it. I want that for you too, brother.

Think about it. Perhaps the most courageous, decisive and masculine thing you can do right now is asking for a chat.

Strong men ask for help. Everyone else sits around waiting for something to change.

Here are some options for you to get started today:

$149 One-Time Payment: The Goodguy2Greatmen 3-Step Emergency Triage for You AND Your Marriage - if you need an instant change in your life and relationship Dan and I created our most powerful short course to help you start feeling more calm and confident and to know what actions to take to start changing your circumstances.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know feeling overwhelmed and living with uncertainty is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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