This email from our coach Garrett Prettyman addresses something that no man wants to experience, but unfortunately some of you have, or you may be worried about right
now...
It can keep you perpetually edgy, tentative and exhausted, managing your resentment every day.
If you recognise something from this
story and you want help handling things with more confidence, join the April waiting list for the course he and another of our coaches, Mark Drezga are running.
Here's Garrett's story.
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Affairs - emotional or physical - shake a marriage to its core. Some relationships emerge stronger after betrayal. Others? They
crumble. This email will help you understand why. Read the true story below so you don’t make the same mistakes that ended a marriage for another man.
3 Months Of Marriage-Fixing & Wife-Chasing: The Results
Andrew felt like a dagger was being pushed through his gut.
He lay face down, motionless in bed.
Inside, the silence
was ominous.
Outside, the December sun melted the crisp morning frost.
His wife, Christy, was in the kitchen - packing up the last of the food.
Their dog zipped around the room, excited for the car ride home.
They were at a lake cabin Andrew had rented…To celebrate their
7th wedding anniversary.
Andrew turned and noticed the full-wall mirror along the bed.
His gut sank deeper.
All hopes of intimate
lovemaking by that mirror the night before were shattered.
The wine by the bed? Unopened.
The lingerie on the chair? Unused.
The roses on the table? Ignored.
Christy walked over to the bed.
"Are you ready to go?" she asked.
Andrew managed to follow Christy out to
the car.
They passed a hand-drawn sign with their names on it.
The words "Happy Anniversary Andrew & Christy" had welcomed their arrival 2 days prior.
Andrew's blood ran cold as he tried to comprehend how badly the weekend had
gone.
How Andrew Accidentally Created The Worst Anniversary Of His Life
Three months ago…
That’s when Christy’s emotional affair with her coworker first came out.
She had been fostering the secret relationship for almost a year.
When Andrew insisted she end it, she reluctantly cut ties.
He felt a glimmer of hope.
And so he went all in.
He booked marriage counseling.
He
watched every “save your marriage” video on YouTube.
He read every blog on "how to re-attract your wife."
Every time he found a new hack, he used it on his wife.
"Hacks" like:
- Taking her on a hot air balloon ride. (To recreate an adrenaline-fueled bond.)
- Flooding her with love notes, surprise visits, flowers, and foot rubs.
- Making a tear-jerking photo slideshow of their best moments.
- Taking over the chores—dishes, laundry, meals, shopping.
- Planning a perfect anniversary getaway.
Andrew had one mission - to have their marriage fixed by their
anniversary.
Andrew’s every attempt to seduce Christy that weekend was met with cold, unwavering rejection.
She gave the dog plenty of affection…
But Andrew? Not a single kiss, cuddle, or acknowledgment.
Using Your Wife as a Guinea Pig for Relationship-Saving Hacks Doesn’t Work
Andrew didn’t say a word on the drive home.
His months of desperate effort had changed nothing.
When they arrived, he left Christy to unpack and took their dog into a travel trailer in the backyard.
Hours later, Christy knocked and quietly entered.
She sat down and asked, "Andrew, if we divorce… who gets the dog?"
His heart stopped.
"How can you say that?" Andrew choked
out.
Hearing the word "divorce" was too much.
"Don’t ever say that. We’re not getting a divorce. You’re my wife, forever. We’re Christians - we don’t believe in divorce."
Christy stood up, walked toward the door, and
said,"Do you want to know the moment I lost all respect for you?"
Andrew braced himself.
"It was when you found out about my affair… and didn’t even kick me out of the house. I knew, deep down, if you couldn’t stand up for yourself, there was no way you could ever stand up for me."
Ouch.
That hit hard.
Andrew had been bending over backwards to win her back…
When all she really wanted was a man
with a backbone.
Christy filed for divorce before the month ended.
Pro Tip: Many marriages can heal after a breach of fidelity (emotional or physical) - but only when the one who cheated shows genuine remorse. In Andrew’s case, Christy had none.
Why desperately trying to ‘Fix’ Your Relationship Is More Likely To End It - And What to Do Instead
Andrew’s story is
a perfect example of what NOT to do.
There are no magic hacks, gifts, or words that will make your wife want to be with you.
Those behaviors feel smothering when your marriage is already collapsing.
Remember those giant bubble-making wands from childhood?
You dip it in soapy water…
Slowly open it…
And a gentle
breeze creates a massive bubble.
Move too fast? The bubble pops.
This is your relationship.
Love and attraction are delicate - they must form naturally without
force.
Your anxiety, fear, loneliness, and self-doubt are what needs fixing - not your wife or girlfriend.
Until you become a calm, confident, outcome-independent man, everything you try with your her will have undertones of desperation and insecurity.
You can’t fake confidence around your partner.
Your urgency to fix the relationship leaks out in your:
Eyes
Breathing
Movements
Tone
It’s needy and unattractive.
What
you need is real, internal change - not a quick-fix strategy.
That self-assurance is what our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course is teaching men how to have.
Pro Tip: Broken trust is a major factor in healing a relationship after an affair. But the prerequisite to trusting HER (that most men miss)? Trusting THEMSELVES to enforce their boundaries when needed.
How Andrew Created An Amazing Life
Christy’s choice to divorce felt like a death sentence at first - but in the end, it was a
gift.
Losing Christy forced Andrew to grow in ways he never would have otherwise.
95% of men turn to porn, alcohol, or meaningless sex to numb the pain of rejection.
And guess what?
Those guys recreate the same toxic patterns in their next relationship.
Andrew wasn’t that guy.
He joined the 5% of men who actually address the real issues that destroyed their relationship.
Through the guidance of a seasoned mentor, he developed a mindset that gave him backbone.
And while Christy later noticed his transformation and tried to reconnect…
Andrew turned her down.
Had she shown genuine sorrow for her secrets and lies about her affair, he would have given her another chance.
But when he got clear on his values, his boundaries about who he commits to became crystal clear.
What Kind Of Man Are You, Brother?
Over the last few years, we've had the privilege of coaching some INCREDIBLE men.
High-achieving guys who don't stay down when life knocks them over.
Yes, they were hurting, depressed, and felt like giving up—but they didn't.
If you've read this far down this email, you are one of them.
Nobody is coming to save you.
This
is YOU vs. LIFE, duking it out in the ring.
Do you want a coach to help you be greater than you ever imagined you could be?
Masculine development is dramatically fast-tracked when you have a coach and support system that guides you through it.
It leads to:
More confidence
More
passion
More success
More connection
All of this is waiting for you inside our Vital Formula to Masculine Confidence Course.
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Bonus Segment: "What to do if you suspect your wife is having an emotional affair".
This brand-new segment is for men who suspect their wife might be emotionally involved with another man.
We know emotional (and physical) affairs can damage trust.
You’ll get clear guidance on how to rebuild trust and heal - whether your
suspicions are true or not.
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We’ll see you on the other side.
Garrett Prettyman & Mark Drezga
Associate coaches at GG2GM
