This email from coach Garrett Prettyman makes me cringe because I remember the days when I was "wishy-washy".
The story he tells could have been MY story...nearly any man's story. Is it yours as well?
Enjoy the story. And I HIGHLY recommend you consider getting on the April waiting list for the small group format course he is running soon with Coach Mark Drezga. It's a
life-changer for sure.
Here's Garrett.
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If a simple conversation with your wife explodes into drama no matter how hard you try to do
things right, then keep reading.
I’ve got a story that will help you finally understand why.
Meet Gerald, The Peacekeeper
Gerald and his wife, Susan, sat in their hot tub.
The steam rose between them, but the air was thick with tension.
Susan had asked a question.
Her eyes locked onto him.
She wanted an answer.
Gerald hesitated.
He didn’t know what to say.
If he spoke plainly, all hell would break loose.
If he danced around the question, she’d call him out.
Gerald dreaded a certain side of Susan.
A side he called “the
dragon.”
The "dragon" was cold, dismissive, moody, and angry.
For years, Gerald tiptoed around Susan, hoping to keep the “dragon" asleep.
He mastered the art of adjusting
his responses to maintain peace—not just with Susan, but with everyone in his life.
He did this by constantly reading the room and carefully choosing his words to avoid conflict.
But this wasn't helping his relationship with Susan.
Gerald’s Wishy-Washy Behavior Blew Up in His Face
Susan had grown frustrated.
Gerald’s indirectness made her feel unsupported in the marriage.
Her complaints were:
- I don’t
feel supported.
- You don’t stand up for people.
- I can’t trust you.
- You’re not there for me.
- I don’t feel safe with
you.
Now, in the hot tub, Gerald opened his mouth to speak—and Susan immediately sensed he was about to tiptoe again.
“See! You always do this!!” she snapped.
Gerald backpedaled, scrambling for an excuse.
Susan cut him off again.
"Don’t beat around the bush! Did you or did you not tell your mom exactly why we aren’t going to their place for Thanksgiving?"
Gerald hesitated.
He hadn’t been direct with his mom. He didn’t want to piss her off either.
Instead, he gave his
mom a list of excuses.
Now, he tried explaining himself—but Susan wasn’t having it.
“I’m done. I’m done with you never having any backbone. I’m done having this same
conversation over and over… I don’t even feel like I can stay in this relationship.”
💡 Pro Tip: Women don’t trust or feel safe with men who are unclear, indirect, or afraid of confrontation. When she feels you dancing
around, it puts her in fight-or-flight mode.
How to Stop Being Wishy-Washy
At the root of Gerald’s issue were TWO major problems:
- He thought other people’s emotions were his responsibility to manage.
- He trusted other people's perceptions of him more than his own.
This is the perfect recipe for insecurity
and indecisiveness.
A man who isn’t in his masculine power rides the rollercoaster of women’s emotions.
A man who owns his masculine power stays
grounded—even when emotions run high.
✅ Stay in your emotional lane.
✅ Be cool, be safe, be loving—but firm.
✅ Create security through clarity and decisiveness.
Without this masculine containment, a woman feels like she doesn’t have a champion in her corner—and YOU end up walking on eggshells.
How Gerald Turned Things Around With Susan
Gerald’s hot tub moment was the breaking point.
Instead of repeating the cycle,
he got a mentor and addressed his deeper issues—his fear of abandonment and approval-seeking.
Now, he’s direct, confident, and unshakable.
He no longer
fears how people see him.
He creates safety—not by avoiding conflict, but by standing strong in it.
That’s the magic of doing this
work.
👉 That’s the energy that attracts women.
A man who is clear, direct, calm, and unshaken doesn’t just transform his relationship with his
wife.
- It changes how all ladies experience him.
- It creates trust, respect, and attraction.
- It turns him into the powerful leader he was meant to be.
This is
an amazing group of men learning how to have a strong masculine frame.
Once you're on the list, we’ll send you a 10% early-bird coupon code. Registration opens for 24 HOURS ONLY on April 5th!
📅 Course sessions will run at 5:00 PM Pacific on:
✔️ April 12th
✔️ April 26th
✔️ May 10th
✔️ May 24th
💥 Bonus Segment:
"What to do if you suspect your wife is having an emotional affair".
This brand-new segment is for men who suspect their wife might be emotionally involved with another man.
We know emotional (and physical) affairs can damage trust.
You’ll get clear guidance on how to rebuild trust and heal—whether your suspicions are true or not.
Click HERE to get on the waiting list so you don’t miss out.
Be grounded, brother.
Garrett Prettyman & Mark Drezga
Associate coaches at GG2GM
